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We have all been there, so many things going on, people expecting of you, the bigger expectation that we place on ourselves. I ask, from where did these expectations start? I can only speak for myself, but I know many people have said similar things.
Our reality, if we believe in the law of attraction theory is a reflection of what and how we see life. We are looking through our filters that we have created over our journey to date. When we start to make changes, doing things differently, putting on different hats and responses, the deeper parts of ourselves that are not in alignment with the new us can create friction stress, pain and a range of other symptoms. It is at these times taking time out to reflect, being gentle and allowing the thoughts, memories and discomforts come to the surface to be transformed and allowed to be let go of.
When this happens flow comes back oh, so much easier, life feels and becomes more productive again, we become happier and at peace again. Our body supports our dreams again, and shows to us that we are on track again.
Sabotage is a common, almost natural response to change. We all have our own sabotage scripts that get triggered when we start to move towards something good for us, or out of our comfort zone. It is the mind’s way of resisting change and keeping us in the known, comfort zone. Sabotage is easiest to see when things are moving forward and is a self-protection mechanism designed to keep you safe because somewhere in our past you have made an association ‘that this = that and from here on, I (the subconscious) must ensure it doesn’t happen again’.
If we dissect the mechanism, it can be seen as the younger you acting out, overriding the adult you in the name of protecting the infant you. For instance, the adult you might be choosing healthier foods when suddenly a locked-in belief or feeling about a what it is like to be healthier, younger, or happier and a negative consequence that created. You might have been picked on, teased, or even leered at in the past for looking and feeling good. The similar event – looking and feeling good has activated the fear side and the sabotage will do what it can to protect you from re-enacting the previous teasing, being picked on or being in danger. Or maybe you took on the belief that you don’t deserve to be lighter and beautiful and this is woken up during the change. WHAM! The sabotage will do all it can to stop you in our tracks, does the opposite to what you have chosen to do, and makes you feel not so good about our self. Sabotage has the potential to stop or slow down our progress.
Sabotage is a very common and powerful tool the subconscious mind uses to protect us from the unknown, or to make sure we are not putting ourselves in harm's way. If we don't explore our sabotages, we are likely to get so far, and our efforts are derailed. We start to procrastinate, find reasons why we shouldn't, get distracted with shiny new ideas or objects, keep searching for the magic bullet to make the changes easier and faster. Unfortunately, sabotages are also very good at hiding, just like in real life those who sabotage others progress do so undercover or in the depths of the night so they are not found out. After all, it is illegal to cause harm to others, or their property. You have an Inner Child that represents our emotions and primal needs.
You have an Adult self that needs to get stronger so it can nurture our Inner Child and learn from our sabotager so you can reach our potential for greater life and love. There is huge blessings to be found when we choose to learn from our sabotages and not ignore or fight them, they really are like the safety circuit breaker in the electrical meter box. When it trips, it is saying there is a problem in the electrical systems, get it checked and fixed before you potentially have an electrical house fire to contend with. The same in our life. If we ignore the early warning signs, this circuit breaker kicks in and stops us from progressing towards that which we really want to achieve.
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The season has changed, summer is coming and the print of the book 'What the mind sees, the body creates, feels and attracts' getting closer there is excitement in the air. The theme of the book is how we create biochemical change from our subconscious, the foods we eat, microbiome and our actions. Since the subconscious doesn't know the difference between what is 'real' or not and it responds to the emotional imprints created over time, the greater energy or emotional imprint, the stronger the belief we hold about ourselves, and how our life 'should' be.
The subconscious works with images and emotions. Like the squeaky wheel, or how deep ruts are created when the same track is walked on, the more frequently heard and felt messages become more ingrained they become. Emotions are anchors to the body which means the more emotion we feel around a statement, the body will work hard at recreating this feeling becuase it thinks that is what we want more of. We must want to stay there as we have anchored the feeling in our body. This process works for the positive and negative emotions, and so it is our duty to be clear as to what we do, and choose to have in our body and life. If we want more good in our life, put lots of positive feelings with affirming statements, the body will work to recreating that feeling and therefore change of physiological state. (the opposite is equally true. More we say we don't want, or we don't like etc, and we have an emotion with it, the body will work towards re-creating just what you don't want.)
For many people I know it has been a massive 6 months in so many good ways. The challenges are asking us to look at our values and beliefs and who/what we really want to be known for. The world events, in the social, economic and natural disasters are asking us as individuals and collectively to get real. Get clear and stand up as to what we as individuals and in our society we want to stand for. What is important to us and where we want to be in the future.
The bottom line is if we don't check in with who we truly want to be and act from this place, we will be drifting down a path to a place we may not want to be in a few years time. Do you want to be the frog in hot water, slowly adapting to hot water, or do you want to the be one in charge of the amount of heat in your own bath water? This applies to all aspects of life... health, lifestyle, relationships, career etc. The same principles apply as you are working on your own core self and the ripple effect spreads through your life.
Coming home after my mid life, European adventure I had to claim my place in my reality. Sure, I had read, attended coursed and explored thoughts and ways of reality hacking. I have create all the good, and ugly and inbetweens to date, but I also knew that if i didn't take more control over my thoughts, desires and actions from the past and come to peace with them I was going to keep living a limited, scary life. So, what can be done, without leaving the country to contemplate your hidden parts that want to come forth?
Take on the mode of a research scientist - 'let's investigate a thought and prove it either way.'
We all have ideas, beliefs and values; at some time in our life it is invaluable to consider whose they really belong to. If we blindly stay on auto-pilot, it is quite possible we are going to live someone else's destiny and following the wrong flight plan.
How does this happen? It is quite simple really. We inherit our genes from parents. Nothing new here. What is a newer consideration is our Grandmother makes the female portion of us. How? Our mother's eggs are made by her mother, our Grandmothers. Sit with this thought for a bit. What was our Grandparents' life really like? What were the ideologies, beliefs and values of the time; access to resource, wisdoms experiences etc.? Consider where and how these embedded beliefs are playing out in your thoughts now. This is a real example of Auto-pilot. How about your parents? Not only what happened in their home and social experiences, but what were their actual interpretations of life around your conception, and through your childhood.
Anyone can embed ideas into our thinking, if we allow it. Impressions from parents, school, peers, work, colleagues, society, culture etc., all have the power to change our deepest held values, especially in hurtful, stressful situations.
Consider too, from a sociological view, each generation has a theme, baby boomers, free love, techno etc. The era in which we were exposed to also creates a view of what life could, should, might be like. Naturally, there is an opposite side to all of these things.
Self care, for me, personally goes way beyond looking after body or treating myself. These actions really do feel good and are important, but the deeper level of self care for me is about knowing myself and clearly stating who I are and what I believe. The more attention I have given to sifting through my own beliefs, ideologies etc the easier it has been to like and love myself, and therefore less need from others affection or attention to make myself feel good.
There was a time in my life when I figured I either had to get real or get out. Show up or go home, whatever catchphrase you want to use. I had, unknowingly taken on a lot of negative, self abating thoughts from quite a few people. The result was I didn't like, let alone love myself, and I really didn't like who I was. I didn't know how to let people in, and really felt that unimportant.
Fortunately, psychology is starting to talk about the idea that "Until we know ourselves and accept ourselves, know what works for us in a good way we are inclined to go with the flow, allow others do things that we would rather not do, and tend to seek the fillers to the gaps we have in ourselves." When we know what our own gaps are, and learn to fill them ourselves, we become more empowered. It is easier to say no and mean it, set healthy boundaries and not feel the need to engage in questionable or dangerous behaviour to fit in. We basically look after ourselves and engage with others in healthier, truer ways. Am I there yet? No but I am certainly further down the line that I was.
How is it possible to create this clarity? Start studying the greats, look at all things you think, feel, do and experience in life as a third party observer and start playing with investigative questions.
What a week, it has been jammed packed finalising study, working and finishing a stage that was almost overdue; then bang, the weekend. I didn't have a deadline, or anything that I had to do. I had freedom of choice again, and that got me adrift! What did I end up doing? Going into the office to make sure the project didn't run over time, and came home to clean house, cook a fabulous dinner for 1 and watch two thought provoking movies.
While it was good to have choice, it also felt weird after a few weeks of 'must get this done' urgency and lots of weekend study and late nights. To do added value to life, and self care was a weird feeling. Then, to wake up on Sunday knowing it was Mother's Day and all that it inherently brings up for me. So, Sunday was mixed up, and charged. What WAS I GOING TO DO WITH MYSELF??? As it was I stayed in my PJs till about 1.30, showered and went to the library. With a good dose of pondering questions, a dose of self pity and big dose of wanting to breakthrough the frump that I had found myself in.
Was this a sabotage, or an opportunity. Well, that is the first question isn't it? It depends how we choose to interpret things. For me, the frump was the perfect thing to feel so I could explore the ideas of what I felt I was missing, why and what was I going to do about it??? This is the big one. We all have choices. More so as adults. We choose what we see, focus on and feel about things, people and feelings?
In the library on my quest for considered inspiration, I came across a chapter in a book, its abstract is here....
"The most secure prisons are those we construct for ourselves
When we think about loss of freedom, we seldom focus on the ways in which we voluntarily impose constraints upon our lives. Everything we are afraid to try, all our unfulfilled dreams, constitute a limitation on what we are and could become. Usually it is fear and its close cousin, anxiety, that keep us from doing those things that would make us happy. so much of our lives consists of broken promises to ourselves. the things we long to do - educate ourselves, become successful in our work, fall in love - are goals shared by all. Nor are the means to achieve these things obscure. and yet, we often do not do what is necessary to become the people we want to be. ......
We do not like to think of ourselves as trapped. This is, afterall, the land of opportunity. We are surrounded by images of success. our culture presents us constantly with stories of people who rose from obscurity to fame, often with limited talent. Rather than take hope from these stores, most people absorb them as additional indications of their own inadequacy. We are also confused and put off by the apparent ease with which these transformations occur. the slowness with which productive change actually takes place does not play well in the impatient society. Where do we find the determination and patience required to achieve the things we want?"
Taken from Gordon Livingston Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart (2004)
The message I am endeavouring to put to you, is that if you want something, it is essential to first have an inkling to know what, then act. Nothing new, I know, but think about this:
Change is not easy, real change takes inner reflection, a lot of courage and determination to move in directions which may take you away from your current comfort zone, friends, family or what you know. This is serious stuff, but at the end of the day, it is your life, and your choices.
Start by looking at what you can control - your thoughts, and what you do to your body. Even this can be scary and confronting. You are in charge of what you do, what you put in your body, on your body, and what you think, but you might need help. It is ok not to know, or have confidence to make the changes needed. You might not have the skill of how to fine tune your choices to your body, or to dive into the messages of your body, this is perfectly ok. This is what we have professionals for.
If you want to make change, it is about owning this thought, and then asking for the help to bring it together. It is a smart person who grows into what they want to be and courage to complete the transformation. Is this You? After all, it might only take a few tweaks or insights to shift the linkpin that is keeping you were you are, and if it is as simple as that, why wait for things to get bigger or harder?
Want help, then ask :)
Does this resonate with you? Think about the foods you tend to eat if you are celebrating, or content; Happy or sad; Frustrated or concerned. Do you eat slightly or dramatically different when you are in a good mood, compared to being worried, or down in the dumps.
I will hazard a guess that you, like most of us choose differently and our mood, self belief, our unconscious thoughts, let alone changes in body chemistry due to hormonal shifts, microbiota, medication, nutrient deficiencies seasons etc make huge differences too. Who, or what then is in charge of our food choices?
Studies have been shown that all of the above influences, but have you monitored yourself and compared your go to choices due to emotions? Not many have?
I was listening to a series of podcasts over the weekend and one struck me the most. Not new information, but presented in a way that made me stop what I was doing - assignments, and sit, listen and poinder what she was saying.
Do consider taking 30 minutes out and then some time after to ponder how her message in the past has impacted on your health and life choices. Three simple words, when you allow yourself to hear and take them in can have such a profound change.
You may not appreciate the significance immediately, and that is ok. I will however encourage you to take up the challenge of putting the words on your bathroom mirror, in your phone as a reminder, and anywhere else that you will see them regularly.
Hope you are curious enough to go ahead now :)
Did you watch it? If not, what is stopping you, your unconscious mind knowing what it is going to talk about and already blocking the message? Yes, it is possible for that to happen.
In line with the video is a quote that also resonates.
" Let resentment know that it is no longer welcome as your mind's house guest. Tell your excuses that they must excuse themselves now. Declare that you will no longer be driven by the way you've been living, and don't let the door hit your past on the ass on the way out. " Scott Niolet
The past is the past, the now is the now. Each second we get to choose a different action than we did in the past; a different feeling, and certainly a different way of seeing ourselves. Once you have noted the emotions that trigger food choices, it is possible to be a lot more discerning as to what you put in your fridge, let alone your mouth.
The challenge then becomes do you see yourself to be enough and worth making the choices and changes that are worthy of your best self that you truly are, or do you feel you need to self punish for whatever reason longer than you have to date?
Self punish may seem harsh, but, if
It is ok if you don't grasp what I am saying here, but I do see it often in clients and myself. Food and all its rules become a tool of self harm or deprivation and not a celebration of the abundance of what we have been blessed with. We have accepted the love of food and what it ultimately gives us .... life.
The challenge has been laid down..... are you ready to own your feelings, points of view, rules and listen to the messages your body wants you to hear? Are you read to make a real change and be guided by your body wisdom and not the latest fad or even science for that matter as you are not a test tube, and you are not a lab rat!! You are a unique person who has had your life experiences to date, and your soul or truest self only wants the best for you and to be you. It is as simple as that.
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Sometimes we need to be real to help others.
I had a food reaction this week, one that gave me a significant headache, aching muscles and fatigue that I hadn't had for a while.
I will also preframe this by saying that I had been pushing my body with the trip to Newcastle that was an emotional rollercoaster, a tiring trip and sleeping in the car, and long study days. So, my body was already stressed and running on adrenaline.
As is often the case, when we need to look at our 'stuff' our subconscious seems to know what to do to make it happen oh that much faster. This time, it was my taste buds asking for a coconut chicken curry. Now curry for me is a problem but I was tired, hungry and bored of eating all the 'safe' foods all the time. I wanted some comfort food that was different and warming. Mistake? Maybe. The 2nd night of the dish, is what pushed me over the edge. One night and I could have gotten through it, but not 2, one after the other, and certainly not while tired and stressed!!!!
The upside it made me stop and take stock. When we are in pain, our body needs to rest and allow the body to take over and redirect nutrients, and energy to minimise more damage. Besides, my brain couldn't think much more than the routine steps anyway.
The pain, while in the regular places - liver detox spot, made me get mad enough to look at it this time with different eyes. i wanted, no i needed to understand what it was really about. I needed to know what was hidden in this message that wanted to be shifted. I should reframe this question, but that one is a bit too personal. Let me say matters of the heart, and family was being really pushed and I wanted to understand what and why so I could help improve the outcomes.
This morning, I sat in my morning seat. A chair that is in a corner, next to a big window framed with green leaves. A cosy place that I can look into the home and be grateful. What came up was I needed to forgive myself for my unrealistic expectation as a child for my parents to give me a God Like love. It was unrealistic because humans are not God, and we ALL have issues and hang ups and fears, and limitations that keep us from being our God selves. I also really need to forgive them for being as wounded as they were, it wasn't their fault either. Their upbringing and ife experiences, the culture at the time didn't encourage self awareness, let alone healing.
Coming to the deep, unmet need as a child, and also knowing my past, it made a lot of sense. The pain eased, the head is starting to think again, Tapping has been done, and I am grateful to the teachers along the way that have opened the world to promoting self healing in ways that may not have been in history.
Thank you to each of you too, because I believe you are here because you want change in your lives, whether it is for your body only, or a combination of mind, spirit and body. We are all drawn to what and whom we need to help us at the time, even if we don't see what it is all about at the time.
Im trusting this message may help or give hope to others here, and as I said in the opening statement, by being open, it gives permission for others to be real as well.
Wishing each of us only the best, and smoothest of learning transitions as possible. xx
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I challenge each of then, as I think I can safely say that those in this group don't acknowledge how great you are. Between been great Mum's, Grandma's, Dad and Gramps, working, or caring for others, how often do you really sit back and look at what you have gone through to date and really, I mean, really see the good, the lessons and the growth you have taken on through the valleys, plateaus and mountain peaks?
Don't underestimate the positive impact each of you have on each other, even if we don't all reach out or share. Group consciousness creates the space of support. Unconscious holding of the space. So please, in the chat lines of the closed Face book group, join us if haven't already done so, and share one thing that do acknowledge that have done. It could be that you got out of bed today and got dressed, or decided to get your hair cut at the dressers, or buy that new winter coat in readiness for the season. You have travelled across the country, or waters to make a difference in any which way. I think you have got the drift. What have you done that when you think about it is pretty impressive and special even if no body else thinks so?
You may have worked out by now that I am totally into how the body works, and how many hidden food sensitivities symptoms looks alike. Being a nutritionist, many of my clients come to me with vague symptoms, or they are at their whits end with 'un-diagnosable' conditions, often being told they need to take anti-depressants because their symptoms are 'in their head' (psychosomatic). Commonly, it is these very clients who often say "I don't have any food sensitivities." My response is usually is: "That you know of!"
Would you know if you have a sensitivity to foods?
Would you recognise any of the symptoms if you were asked? I am going to suspect you wouldn't for 2 simple reasons:
1. You have lived with your body, forever, and any small changes have crept up on you and you are like that frog in hot water.
2. You think ageing is a valid reason to pass the changes you are noticing.
Since you are neither a frog, and age is only a number you are off on both counts.
Yes, the body does change with age, wear and tear etc., however, I will challenge this as being an ideology of the mind, programmed to expectations. Our body changes due to nutritional deficiencies, stress, life stages and other events that drain our nutritional reserves, and contribute to reprogramming our expectations towards the negative. Remember when you were a kid and the world really was your oyster, and you were infallible? That person is still there, hidden under layers of disappointments, nutrient deficiencies, and life stressful events.
What if your body changes are actually a combination of food choices, nutrient deficiencies, and blocked programmes, creating dis-ease and triggering reactions? What if there are possible workable solutions, based on science and scientifically proven ancient wisdom?
If you want to know if you have food sensitivities- check your body against the common symptoms list:
If these sound or feel like you, then get help. Imagine if there were some simple changes possible, but you ignore them and you either got worse, or you didn't have the Quality of Life and freedoms you envisaged, as you matured.
Book in, and start the process now. What do you ave to loose, at the minimum insight, at the most a re-claimed life.
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The mind, is powerful, I am sure not many would disagree with this. It senses, feels, interprets, stores information. We think things through and we dream about the future. What happens though when things don't seem to work in our favor, or we get hit by a left hand curve?
Conflict, difficult times and circumstances are an opportunity to see who and what we are made up of.
The 'shoulds' and attitudes that show up highlights our beliefs we have around the situation, and we are able to determine if we keep, polish or throw out that belief.
Conflict is an internal job, and it is up to ourselves as our body keepers to ensure we are keeping it as clean, safe and honoured as we deserve to be. After all, the body is the Spirit's temple, and if we don't look after it, then the spirit can become tarnished and hidden under the grime and rust of neglect.
At the end of the day, it is all about creating forgiveness for ourselves for how we interpreted the situations as a negative, and seeing the other person't point of view, releasing then from the cause of your interpretation. After all we are all doing the best we can at any moment from our own interpretations and experiences.
"Stress is an inside job, but so is moving past it. The less we focus how stressful we perceive life to be, the less significant stress becomes in our lives. Urgency doesn't always have to feel like an emergency." Scott Niolet
Letting go of stress allows our mind and body to re-sync and come back into balance. Something that many of us may have forgotten over the journey of life to date. It is about being honest with our selves, not sweating the small stuff and talking things through with the people issues relate too. Not always easy but important. As many an older person say.... It really doesn't matter if this or that happened, what matters is the relationships and memories created while given the time to live. If you need help to work through the big issues or uncertainties of life, then get it.
Life is way to short to be held hostage by our childhood, our peers, past and fears.
Sit quietly or even better still complete the wheel of life exercise and write down the things that come to mind. The emotions that rise up, the memories, the wishes and then start to work through them with TAPPING, an easy way to start the shift. IF you want or need more support, be sure to reach out.
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