Does this resonate with you? Think about the foods you tend to eat if you are celebrating, or content; Happy or sad; Frustrated or concerned. Do you eat slightly or dramatically different when you are in a good mood, compared to being worried, or down in the dumps.
I will hazard a guess that you, like most of us choose differently and our mood, self belief, our unconscious thoughts, let alone changes in body chemistry due to hormonal shifts, microbiota, medication, nutrient deficiencies seasons etc make huge differences too. Who, or what then is in charge of our food choices?
Studies have been shown that all of the above influences, but have you monitored yourself and compared your go to choices due to emotions? Not many have?
I was listening to a series of podcasts over the weekend and one struck me the most. Not new information, but presented in a way that made me stop what I was doing - assignments, and sit, listen and poinder what she was saying.
Do consider taking 30 minutes out and then some time after to ponder how her message in the past has impacted on your health and life choices. Three simple words, when you allow yourself to hear and take them in can have such a profound change.
You may not appreciate the significance immediately, and that is ok. I will however encourage you to take up the challenge of putting the words on your bathroom mirror, in your phone as a reminder, and anywhere else that you will see them regularly.
Hope you are curious enough to go ahead now :)
Did you watch it? If not, what is stopping you, your unconscious mind knowing what it is going to talk about and already blocking the message? Yes, it is possible for that to happen.
In line with the video is a quote that also resonates.
" Let resentment know that it is no longer welcome as your mind's house guest. Tell your excuses that they must excuse themselves now. Declare that you will no longer be driven by the way you've been living, and don't let the door hit your past on the ass on the way out. " Scott Niolet
The past is the past, the now is the now. Each second we get to choose a different action than we did in the past; a different feeling, and certainly a different way of seeing ourselves. Once you have noted the emotions that trigger food choices, it is possible to be a lot more discerning as to what you put in your fridge, let alone your mouth.
The challenge then becomes do you see yourself to be enough and worth making the choices and changes that are worthy of your best self that you truly are, or do you feel you need to self punish for whatever reason longer than you have to date?
Self punish may seem harsh, but, if
It is ok if you don't grasp what I am saying here, but I do see it often in clients and myself. Food and all its rules become a tool of self harm or deprivation and not a celebration of the abundance of what we have been blessed with. We have accepted the love of food and what it ultimately gives us .... life.
The challenge has been laid down..... are you ready to own your feelings, points of view, rules and listen to the messages your body wants you to hear? Are you read to make a real change and be guided by your body wisdom and not the latest fad or even science for that matter as you are not a test tube, and you are not a lab rat!! You are a unique person who has had your life experiences to date, and your soul or truest self only wants the best for you and to be you. It is as simple as that.
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Sometimes we need to be real to help others.
I had a food reaction this week, one that gave me a significant headache, aching muscles and fatigue that I hadn't had for a while.
I will also preframe this by saying that I had been pushing my body with the trip to Newcastle that was an emotional rollercoaster, a tiring trip and sleeping in the car, and long study days. So, my body was already stressed and running on adrenaline.
As is often the case, when we need to look at our 'stuff' our subconscious seems to know what to do to make it happen oh that much faster. This time, it was my taste buds asking for a coconut chicken curry. Now curry for me is a problem but I was tired, hungry and bored of eating all the 'safe' foods all the time. I wanted some comfort food that was different and warming. Mistake? Maybe. The 2nd night of the dish, is what pushed me over the edge. One night and I could have gotten through it, but not 2, one after the other, and certainly not while tired and stressed!!!!
The upside it made me stop and take stock. When we are in pain, our body needs to rest and allow the body to take over and redirect nutrients, and energy to minimise more damage. Besides, my brain couldn't think much more than the routine steps anyway.
The pain, while in the regular places - liver detox spot, made me get mad enough to look at it this time with different eyes. i wanted, no i needed to understand what it was really about. I needed to know what was hidden in this message that wanted to be shifted. I should reframe this question, but that one is a bit too personal. Let me say matters of the heart, and family was being really pushed and I wanted to understand what and why so I could help improve the outcomes.
This morning, I sat in my morning seat. A chair that is in a corner, next to a big window framed with green leaves. A cosy place that I can look into the home and be grateful. What came up was I needed to forgive myself for my unrealistic expectation as a child for my parents to give me a God Like love. It was unrealistic because humans are not God, and we ALL have issues and hang ups and fears, and limitations that keep us from being our God selves. I also really need to forgive them for being as wounded as they were, it wasn't their fault either. Their upbringing and ife experiences, the culture at the time didn't encourage self awareness, let alone healing.
Coming to the deep, unmet need as a child, and also knowing my past, it made a lot of sense. The pain eased, the head is starting to think again, Tapping has been done, and I am grateful to the teachers along the way that have opened the world to promoting self healing in ways that may not have been in history.
Thank you to each of you too, because I believe you are here because you want change in your lives, whether it is for your body only, or a combination of mind, spirit and body. We are all drawn to what and whom we need to help us at the time, even if we don't see what it is all about at the time.
Im trusting this message may help or give hope to others here, and as I said in the opening statement, by being open, it gives permission for others to be real as well.
Wishing each of us only the best, and smoothest of learning transitions as possible. xx
What is this leading to??
I challenge each of then, as I think I can safely say that those in this group don't acknowledge how great you are. Between been great Mum's, Grandma's, Dad and Gramps, working, or caring for others, how often do you really sit back and look at what you have gone through to date and really, I mean, really see the good, the lessons and the growth you have taken on through the valleys, plateaus and mountain peaks?
Don't underestimate the positive impact each of you have on each other, even if we don't all reach out or share. Group consciousness creates the space of support. Unconscious holding of the space. So please, in the chat lines of the closed Face book group, join us if haven't already done so, and share one thing that do acknowledge that have done. It could be that you got out of bed today and got dressed, or decided to get your hair cut at the dressers, or buy that new winter coat in readiness for the season. You have travelled across the country, or waters to make a difference in any which way. I think you have got the drift. What have you done that when you think about it is pretty impressive and special even if no body else thinks so?
You may have worked out by now that I am totally into how the body works, and how many hidden food sensitivities symptoms looks alike. Being a nutritionist, many of my clients come to me with vague symptoms, or they are at their whits end with 'un-diagnosable' conditions, often being told they need to take anti-depressants because their symptoms are 'in their head' (psychosomatic). Commonly, it is these very clients who often say "I don't have any food sensitivities." My response is usually is: "That you know of!"
Would you know if you have a sensitivity to foods?
Would you recognise any of the symptoms if you were asked? I am going to suspect you wouldn't for 2 simple reasons:
1. You have lived with your body, forever, and any small changes have crept up on you and you are like that frog in hot water.
2. You think ageing is a valid reason to pass the changes you are noticing.
Since you are neither a frog, and age is only a number you are off on both counts.
Yes, the body does change with age, wear and tear etc., however, I will challenge this as being an ideology of the mind, programmed to expectations. Our body changes due to nutritional deficiencies, stress, life stages and other events that drain our nutritional reserves, and contribute to reprogramming our expectations towards the negative. Remember when you were a kid and the world really was your oyster, and you were infallible? That person is still there, hidden under layers of disappointments, nutrient deficiencies, and life stressful events.
What if your body changes are actually a combination of food choices, nutrient deficiencies, and blocked programmes, creating dis-ease and triggering reactions? What if there are possible workable solutions, based on science and scientifically proven ancient wisdom?
If you want to know if you have food sensitivities- check your body against the common symptoms list:
If these sound or feel like you, then get help. Imagine if there were some simple changes possible, but you ignore them and you either got worse, or you didn't have the Quality of Life and freedoms you envisaged, as you matured.
Book in, and start the process now. What do you ave to loose, at the minimum insight, at the most a re-claimed life.
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The mind, is powerful, I am sure not many would disagree with this. It senses, feels, interprets, stores information. We think things through and we dream about the future. What happens though when things don't seem to work in our favor, or we get hit by a left hand curve?
Conflict, difficult times and circumstances are an opportunity to see who and what we are made up of.
The 'shoulds' and attitudes that show up highlights our beliefs we have around the situation, and we are able to determine if we keep, polish or throw out that belief.
Conflict is an internal job, and it is up to ourselves as our body keepers to ensure we are keeping it as clean, safe and honoured as we deserve to be. After all, the body is the Spirit's temple, and if we don't look after it, then the spirit can become tarnished and hidden under the grime and rust of neglect.
At the end of the day, it is all about creating forgiveness for ourselves for how we interpreted the situations as a negative, and seeing the other person't point of view, releasing then from the cause of your interpretation. After all we are all doing the best we can at any moment from our own interpretations and experiences.
"Stress is an inside job, but so is moving past it. The less we focus how stressful we perceive life to be, the less significant stress becomes in our lives. Urgency doesn't always have to feel like an emergency." Scott Niolet
Letting go of stress allows our mind and body to re-sync and come back into balance. Something that many of us may have forgotten over the journey of life to date. It is about being honest with our selves, not sweating the small stuff and talking things through with the people issues relate too. Not always easy but important. As many an older person say.... It really doesn't matter if this or that happened, what matters is the relationships and memories created while given the time to live. If you need help to work through the big issues or uncertainties of life, then get it.
Life is way to short to be held hostage by our childhood, our peers, past and fears.
Sit quietly or even better still complete the wheel of life exercise and write down the things that come to mind. The emotions that rise up, the memories, the wishes and then start to work through them with TAPPING, an easy way to start the shift. IF you want or need more support, be sure to reach out.
Life, is what we make of it, it is the sum of choices over our time alive, and the unconscious acceptance of other people's beliefs and expectations. By now, you may be wondering why I focus so much on the mind stuff, and not giving out lots of food related 'orders' and guides. They will come, but first we need to consider what and why we do the food stuff, without awareness of what and why, nothing really changes in the long term, and we just keep doing what we have always done. Yes, small changes may be made, but from experience, they don't stick around long enough to become habits, (unless they are feeding a feeling)
Think back to the time of the day when you are feeling flat, what do you think of besides sitting down and not thinking?
What food or drink do you go for?
You have had a stressful, hard day at work; at home, what do you 'go for' because
"I need to relax"
"I have had a hard one today and I deserve this."
Are you going for carrots and celery and a big green smoothie? Some how I doubt it but might be heading to the fridge for a cold one, possibly chips or chocolate, or biscuits, possibly take away because it feels to hard. I do this too, believe it or not. Sometimes a day was just tooo hard, toooo long, and tooo stressful and I too awine or two, or maybe a Gin & Tonic. Habits such as these were easy to create and not so easy to give up, even for me.
So, what can be done. There is a process you can do in the heat of the moment, you possibly already do.
Stop! Ask? Choose.
It works better after you have done the awareness exercise, but for now, lets pull this one apart.
When the urge comes to follow a habit or knee jerk reaction, stop.
Take several deep breathes, and ask yourself:
"What is this, what emotion is here?"
"Is it mine, or did someone else give it to me?" "Do I want to continue feeling and responding like this, or not?"
Friday afternoon, in Crete, Greece. The breeze is gentle, the atmosphere is relaxed and light. It is not quite one week in my mid life reset adventure, and it feels like it!! My body has coped a hiding from the travel, and new foods (I can react to several foods, and hyper sensitive to gluten, and cow milk, and spices. Great when travel foods are all these, unless one is lucky).
Few people know my true reasons for leaving the land of the down under where mighty rule the space. No, that is not quite true, it is an illusion, a power I have given to some people I know. It is more about the fact that over the years, I have allowed myself to dwindle away from the determined, independent, yet equally fiercely insecure person I was to a person where the insecure part increased and the independence dwindled. I noticed this early on, but my stigma and beliefs held me in the space of limitation, unhealthy relationships and 'following the rules'.
Over time, the need to re-balance of internal power become true strong. I had exploited my self views and associated with people who easily and willingly mirrored my fears. I knew on a deep level I needed to take back my shadow parts and reclaim my true self - love. It has been a long and painful journey, but one that was needed to live and experience, or die. Yes, that dramatic.
I have spoken with many people over the last couple of months of this journey, I made the decision and booked flights in February this year. The resounding feedback is "WOW, that is so courageous I admire what you are doing. Is this what I thought when I booked, yes and no. The entire trip by design a "where the wind may take me" experience booking only a few days ahead or even on the day. Brave, incredible or down right silly. Possibly all of these things all round into one. I am choosing to see the part of me again that can do anything, make things happen and be ok with the choices being made.
Every second is a choice. "Do I do this or that? " Choosing to not make a choice and allowing others to decide is a choice to hand over one's power to another. Be careful with whom you play this game with, as they may be more adept of looking after their own needs than you are and by default you fall into the ideals of another, and a puppet for them to play with.
I was speaking with a sales consultant for a holiday time share, as one has time for when on holiday, and the guy couldn't get a handle in where to slot me into the spiel, after all I am living most people's dream they are selling. I do, by choice work a few days a week, I have closed shop for three months, when at home I live on the beach and do as I choose more often than not. Was this luck, was it define fault, was it even conscious? I will say, a lot has been choice.
I don't want a lot, and fought for this type of a lifestyle, one that goes against the popular perception of house, car holidays, oh and don't forget the endless happy smiley moments with family and abundance of friends chucked in. It isn't a new argument that social media has a lot to answer to, but one needs to consider where did these popular thoughts actually come from, our parents and the propaganda of our forefathers, media employed to 'sell' the image the companies wanted us to buy into to sell their product. This too is not a new topic and I have spoken of it before, it is after all a rebellion trigger to what I am now doing. See I too got caught up in the ought tos of living, I ought to have a family that totally adore and love me, (I am sure they do, but it is buried in their fear and uncertainty) I ought to have a uber multi-million dollar producing business so I can sit at the beach when I choose, Oh, right I do that now.
It has taken me some time to remember to be true to me. Do I need to be color co-ordinated to leave the house, or cleaning presentable in comfortable clothes? Must I behave a certain way and work 6 days a week, create funnels and tell people they are not doing things right for their health if they are not doing A, B, or even C?
I don't think so. I have left for a three month, reset adventure which in truth started last Thursday. Since, which is only 1 week I have traveled, 1673 km in three days in Australia, then, hoped on the plane for another 15, 180 to arrive at my current location in Crete. Thankfully, I didn't need to drive the entire way, but when considering what it does to our body, one can sit back and just go wow!
What have these revelations got to do with anyone? To be honest, not sure, as we each make our own choices based on our own beliefs and values, my had become blurred and skewed from what was important, so I chose to reclaim and to me at the time seemed the best way to do it. What is yours though is for you to work out. Are you happy and if not why not, what is out of balance, what is it you are OK with to enable the bigger picture of love and life to occur? What changes in your perception, attitude, behavior, habits etc can be altered or tweaked to bring things back in order. Seeking help from a trusted and experienced support person is vital to help see through the fog that we create.
For me, I had moved too far into the forest, with fog so deep not to see easily. As a result I have left the space and things immediately started to change. I am feeling somewhat better in my mind, I have a laissez faire confidence which has opened up conversations with people at home in ways I didn't think was possible. I am finding here while talking with people they are in the same boat, which is somewhat comforting, and it is also prompting me to think one reason why I needed to leave was not to rescue myself, but to help those with whom I talk with as suggested by my counselor as to what might actually happen. So, the question then arises, am I being selfish by doing something i want/needed to do, or have I been called to help others while helping myself? Afterall, in all things the physics of cause and effect happen, and it is possible as each of reclaim more of our true selves not only do we provide the space for others to do the same, by example, but also by default give other the courage to consider another way of doing, of living.
(By the way, I didn't buy into the time share I was being 'sold' to. It worked out I made a good decision all those years ago and have a better deal. Another message this week that I have been and still are on the right path, even if it was covered in mud at the time. :)
"You cannot become who you want to become by only doing what you want to do. Don't do only what you feel like doing. Ambitiously tackle whatever's required to move toward what you aspire to" Scott Niolett
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It has been two months since I have written post here, and a lot has happened in that time. Following my own suggestions of lofty questions and completing the journal questions, to gain clarity and action a journey started that has snowballed into something totally unexpected, and the courage to do it.
My questions were around abundance, connection with family and friends, and self awareness, these came in spades, one might say. AS the saying goes, what we focus on, we attract and to be honest so many things in my life had come to a crossroad, it was becoming a health hazard. I was stale, tired and disillusioned. Things were feeling like dead-ends, brick walls and not fulfilling. For this reason, my mind really started to wonder towards what if, and what could be different - lofty questions.
The universe kicked in fairly quickly, as the notion to take off on an extended adventure, reset the button so to speak and see what happened. As a result, the following has happened
The Europe trip, 3 months of wondering the groves of the continent starts in a few weeks. Excited and a little nervous, but seeing how supported I have been in preparation reinforces to me, I just need to go and do. I have been able to create the money to pay for the ticket, I have reached out to people there who I haven't spoken to in ages and so re-connecting, The sequence of events leading up to now has been nothing short of synchronicity, in other words perfect, divine timing.
Coming back to the idea of focus. For a long time, there has been an internal struggle around 'what material things are acceptable to have'. For some, possessions, and big things at that seem to be the thing to strive for. The keeping up with the Joneses, and keeping in form according to media, and advertising. This is something I have generally not followed, I can't see the point of spending money to have the latest whatever for the sake of it. If it is needed because there isn't anything else in the house to use, then maybe, but not just because I am told I need it by the TV.
I have been fortunate to live comfortably in a van, drive a car - until it died, I eat well, what I choose, I travel, and do things that interest me. How? I choose to. I am also in the position of not needing to consider others either. I chose to do things my way. Yes, at times I think about what others might think - my kids, my ex are big testers, but the beauty of this reflection is clarity - Do I want to be bigger, more successful, more wealth at the cost of my peace, comfort and sanity. For me the answer is no. I would rather a simple life and contentment, health and emotional wealth than money that drains me.
Living simply philosophy is a good one, if one can do it, otherwise I think it would be too stressful. More so if the choice to do so was to meet another's expectation or trend, which is something I see coming through. Similar to the happiness and gratitude trend. There is a good dose of truth and health in the messages, however, like most fads the message is great until we feel we need to perform only from that space and not be real. It is impossible to always feel and be happy, content, loving and compassionate. Life can suck and big time at that, emotions of hate, anger, rage, and revenge do surface. Are these bad? No they are not, but we are told we are not healthy if we feel them, we are not living the happy way.
The balance side of this is all things are allowed to be, the good, the bad, the ugly, the painful and down right run away and hide feelings, it in how we deal with them that counts. Knee jerk or auto pilot reactions when we take time to consider them and learn from them are powerful teachers. It is then we can make changes in our thought, deeds and actions. If we can take time out and ponder the big emotions that are coming up and allow ourselves to have a conversation with the emotions to learn the lesson they are bringing to our attention then they are helpful, an art of allowance that is beautiful and healing.
For instance, if a person just annoys you, see if they are doing things that you do, but you don't particularly like - the shadow self; If there are obstacles or things just 'not working' triggering frustration or even bulldozer affect are there control issues, or insecurity about not being in control showing up. The deeper one delves into the core issue allows for fascinating realisations. You might need some professional help to take the dive, but it is worth figuring out the triggers so one acts from choice and integrity.
What is any of this got to do with you? Possibly everything or nothing. I am purely sharing to show that others are doing, what maybe you would like to do. That small changes in thoughts, focus and choice can create massive impact of change. In many ways from the living I have done to date, and learnings made has only reinforced the idea that we can only do so much the rest really is up to what our life journey is meant to be. Yes, there is a lot more depth to this statement that I have not, and are not yet ready to share, so if you the reader is willing to take a leap of faith and start considering your life, your choices to date and be honest about what your crossroad choices are and then decide what is important to you. They are your values, desires and acceptances, and no one would take them away form you. Live our life for it is truly only yours.
February is well and truly here, the sun has changed angle and the heat seems to be spiking higher. Change, in all spheres as we seem to be saying "It was never like this before....".
What changes did you commit to making this year?
Are you still on track?
If not that is ok, as every second of every day is a new beginning. It's about being clear of what you want, how you want to live and how much you are willing give up mis-aligned habits and work with the associated discomfort and pain of change to get what you really want.
Personally, I have taken to writing in awareness and lofty questions journal. It is very similar to the Awareness and Accountability Journal developed for my clients, the big difference is I am focusing on the lofty questions.
Lofty questions is a concept introduced to my by Christie Marie Sheldon from Mindvalley.com. Christie is an energy shifter whom I have listed to over the years. She has facilitated in initiating some significant changes in my life simply by opening my imagination to the possibility of 'I would like that too'. Lofty questions are designed to ask the sub-conscious to get creative in finding ways to address the focus point of the question. Potentially opening up some pretty amazing insights and shifts in focus which in turn creates different life experiences.
Some of the lofty questions she posses include:
"Why do I have more money than I need?" (Abundance and helping others?)
"Why do I have more than enough money to pay my bills, save money and have some left over to have fun?" (Self sufficiency and financial appreciation)
"Why is my life so amazing, and exceeds all my expectations?" (Gratitude and celebration)
"What are the steps I require to take to manifest the ideas into abundance?" (Focus on action)
"What is my million dollar idea so I can manifest it into my life today?" (Co-creating with the universe on the destined path)
"How can the universe give me than enough health, energy, vitality and stamina than I thought possible?" (instilling health and physical abundance)
"What type of person can I become to manifest and enjoy the abundance the universe wants to give me?" (Blessings are there to be given, it is matched to the image we believe about ourselves. So by changing our self belief, and describing who we are growing into helps to co -create the changes in life we desire and destined to have.)
I encourage you to play with the above questions, and definitely explore her work!!
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"How long must you feel sorry for yourself in order to finally reclaim your happiness? Seriously. How much self-pity is required to love yourself again? When would now be the best time to start acting and feeling better? Now."
What is it we are afraid of? It is success, or failure and according to who's definition of either are you comparing yourself to? Is it about achieving things you thought you were not entitled to, or worth of? With New Years heading firmly into being 2017, what is the goals you set out to achieve in the last days of 2016, leading into 2017. What were you vowing to do differently? For many it is to eat, move, behave, think, relate, spend, travel, relax or learn. Then, reality kicks in. Summer is hot, and it is easier to enjoy the ice cream, soft drink, easy meals of take away and laze around. The kids are still on holidays, and so the atmosphere of kicking resolutions is a challenge.
Often, the underlying reasons for not go for the resolutions is a fear of not achieving the stated goal, being shown up, (in our own minds, if not by others) of not doing it again. The fear of missing out, or needing to learn new habits; sweat it out, or even just to get up that little bit earlier to fit things in. What is the greater fear though, to make changes and give up habits and comforts that are not supporting your growth and dreams, or the fear of showing up again as not following through?
Fear is a learnt response from years of situations challenging the ego's perceptions of what 'should' be and most of the fear we feel in life is simply anxiety arising from our anticipation of two kinds of pain that change might bring....
the pain associated with loss or hardship" Brendon BurchardThankfully there are no 'shoulds', or 'musts' in life, but a sequence of choices that moves you to, away or to stay put in the situation one is in.
The sense or fear of loss is a thought pattern. We become concerned we will lose something we enjoy or value if we make the changes needed to achieve the stated goal. It is a thought pattern that plays out in millions of subtle decisions throughout people's lives.
If you fear :
Do any of these resonate with you? Can you substitute situations or words that are potentially holding you back and keeping you small, trapped or limited in situations or relationships that are not serving you any more? Is it time to be honest with yourself and with those it potentially impacts?
Getting real and honest with yourself takes a lot of self care,self respect and courage. When we ignore our own truths, we are ultimately lying to ourselves, and showing others we will tolerate being treated. If this is ok with you then great, but from experience, there are not many who are totally content with all aspects of their lives and are choosing to settle and allow self neglect to start take over.
How does one move through from ignorance, denial and avoidance to insight, choice and action? It takes times, a willingness to be totally honest and be ok with whatever is likely to come up. To closely analyse your thought patterns around change, and commitment to change, then reverse it. Once we become aware of the reasons why are anticipate loss, it is important to question whether or not it is true.
The more we look for evidence of our fears, the more we realise they are ofen faulty, quick assumptions of atired or undirecterd mind.......Brendon BurchardI am going to hazard a guess if you explore or examine the fear of dieting, quitting a bad habit or leaving a bad relationship you will realise there is always less to lose than to gain in making healthy decisions for. You may feel there are some embarrassing, shameful, unreal, surprising, but also likely to be some understandable and awe inspiring reasons why you are avoiding the responsibility of change. Desire to attain your chosen goal is not enough, but unshackling your attachment to the chains of fear and the limitations of keeping your self comfortable to continuing to do what you are doing.
With out awareness from this type of exploration and willingness to own your beliefs, rationals, fears running your choices, things will not easily change, if at all. You are likely to remain stuck, going around in circles until you take courage to face up and release the hold the irrational fears have over your choices. Awareness is ultimately the first step, action and release work is essential.
Once we recognise the assumptions we hold triggering the anxiety, we can then flip them and explore the opposite. Seeing and then focusing as obsessively as possible on the gains we will have with the resolved changes. What if you begin the new diet and find new foods and recipes we love? What if the pains that are stopping me from walking easily go away? What if I can start to eat my favorite foods again when I have figured out they were not the problem, but some thing else was?What if we quite smoking and learn new methods of even greater relaxation? What if, in a new romantic relationship, we finally find joy?
It is wise to visualise these outcomes as much as we visualise the sense of loss.
If you feel you are stuck or overwhelming emotions are surfacing, then it is is really time to let things go. You may well benefit with release work to access the block that is keeping the fear and limitation in place stronger than your ability to move forward. If this is the case for you, then book your Guided Health Meditation Session, or reach out to therapists you trust, or even consider doing courses as provided in Mindvalley.com. I have used several of their programs and magic really does happen.
Remember, what the mind can conceive it will do what is in its power to deliver. The universe with conspire with you on what you focus, so become super clear of what you are focusing on and why, and you will get there so much faster.
This little one says it all so clearly. As adults, we can certainly learn from the message.
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.
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