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ways of thinking and feeling.
ways of thinking and feeling.
Our brain, that structure that sits in our skull, made up of cholesterol based casings around our neurons. The part of our body which we generally equate to the computer, the decision making and control centres of the body. Within this system, there is the autonomic - automatic and the makes things happen with out thinking; sympathetic, which has more conscious control - feel pain > move hand; enteric system is the internal decision of the digestive system to ensure an efficient and tight function of digestion.
The other way we talk about our 'brain' is its division of conscious and unconscious mind. There are some really big differences between the two parts. This article is going to broadly discuss
The conscious brain can be thought of your immediate awareness at any point in the day. For instance, if you bring your attention to a sound, a touch or thought, parts of your brain are fired up.
You conscious mind also tends to do what you ask it to do, which is primarily directed by your unconscious mind.
The Unconscious Mind
It is thought, the unconscious mind hears, sees, and feels everything, so what ever you come into contact with, your unconscious mind is aware at a very deep level what is going on. The conscious brain however, is only able to concentrate on a few points at any one time, but if given instruction or a specific request to pay attention to the smaller details we sense, the brain can access this information.
There are a 'points or rules' of the unconscious mind, which when understand it is possible to harness the unconscious to our betterment and heal our world as we see it.
The end of the financial year is here in Australia and now is as good as any to look at our progress, triggers and really get honest about what we have been doing over the past six months. Have you been able to meet your New Year Resolutions, or were these put to the side at some stage? Have you achieved some, gone on detours, up hill and down dale to arrive where you are now?
As with all significant dates or anniversaries they are a perfect opportunity to reflect, assess, regroup and refocus again. This is the same cycle that we use in learning, GPS navigation, life!
Being at the end of the Financial Year, I thought I would remind/ bring your attention to how money is a fantastic monitor for your inner world. I know, it seems crazy to consider Money in this way, but hear me out.
Money is only another physical representation of our inner world -
thoughts, expectations, beliefs etc.
When we are asked to review our financial position, do our taxes etc, it is a brilliant tool to look at our selves and consider what is going on inside and why we spend money the way we do and on what we spend money on.
The other premise I learnt in Money Bootcamp by Denise Duffield-Thomas which is really cool and helps to also reflect on your relationship is to see money as your partner, lover, friend and see how you treat each other. If you imagine money (energy) as being a person, what is your current relationship, and how would you really like it to be?
I ask you then, to consider the following questions and see what comes up for you. elves.
The change over of the financial year is here, and as with many significant dates, a great time to reflect. 6 months from your New Year's Resolutions too, how have you fared? As you think back over the past 6 months, and consider what has happened, or not, focus a bit more on what has happened and your responses to them.
If you haven't achieved as much as you would like, consider the reasons why. There is no wrong, only awareness, from which you can make different choices.
Feeling a bit stuck, or not moving forward as quickly as you would like, then consider deep diving into your limiting beliefs with our Transformation Session, or our most comprehensive RecaimME! Program. 9 core issues, 12 weeks!
The power of thoughts, more so when they are voiced. Considering words are created from thought which comes from a belief, or what is being read, recited or impersonating.
It is possible to change a belief by hearing or running the same program often enough. 'Normality' is created when we hear, see or do things often enough and creating an ingrained neural path. This is great, and just what we want when we choose to create healthy thought patterns, but the same happens with the negative.
This is how complacency can occur because we become conditioned or neutral to the situation. Not always healthy, and the body feels it by out of balance or out of sync or the latest buzz word - our of alignment with our true selves. Mis-alignment triggers body stress, turning to symptoms and if ignored long enough disease.
Fortunately, we can disrupt the process and come back into alignment with conscious effort, or faster using energetic circuit changes such as Kinesiology, Rieki, Bars, EFT, NLP and of course, Hypnotherapy.
Affirmations is a support process which helps to reinforce the changes created during the energy changes. They are constant reminders. Affirmations can be used alone, but change is created faster when combined with Belief change, Anchors and Visualisation.
In a nutshell, more we say something, the sooner the sub-conscious brain will internalise it, say it with passion, and images it is faster still. Adding affirmations to a clean slate after the belief and memory has been transformed, faster again. Convinced yet that a combined, thorough approach is powerful?
The Queen of Affirmations would have to be Louise Hay, who created a comprehensive list of affirmations for almost all aliments, and guided further research into the associations between our self perception, self beliefs and conditions. Her book You Can Heal your Life was written more than several decades ago and is still used as a primary text for health change.
Ready to read more, and make a few of your own affirmations? Download the affirmation worksheet.
Ths is just one of the topics taught in the ReclaimME! program.
Belief, by definition from my old school dictionary (circa 1981) is:
- The feeling or confidence that something is real, true or worthwhile or
- something which is taught or accepted as true.
Based on this definition it is easy to see how influencing beliefs are and how challenging they can be to move if needed. in summary, beliefs are the meanings we give to situations or people and are our expectations of how things should be.
Beliefs can be created at any stage of our life, but it is generally accepted our core beliefs are created by the age of 7. Which means parents, significant adults, siblings, early school, school in general, sporting clubs/activities, friends and peers.
We can become aware of our beliefs with curiosity and mindfulness. When things are not going the way we expect, or we experience big emotions either positive or negative, we can see our beliefs playing out.
When we feel the negative, generally our expectations, hopes, wishes are being violated or not being met. Think of the times when people have let down, disappointed or things haven't worked out and recall the thoughts and the emotions that have come up with this.
Now, think of when things have worked well and all is in good order, are you happier, more joyful because they are meeting your expectation and things are as they should be?
"Expectation is the mother of all frustration. " Antonio Blanca Banderas
High expectations of self can also be a double edge sword, but can certainly give us incentives to move towards goals, the challenge is to keep the expectations slightly out of comfortable reach to help us stretch.
Expectations of others are best to be monitored to encourage them to be the best people they can be, and be honest if you are ok with them who they are. After all, we can only control our own response and reactions.
Limiting beliefs are those that hold us back, and limit our progress generally due to fear, thinking we are not good enough, deserving or lovable, but at the core of this is the belief on not being good enough. This is where it gets tough, because we all want to be loved and be accepted, and have pleasure in life.
Trauma, by definition is a "deeply distressing or disturbing experience" or "physical injury". Tell me how many people haven't experienced traumatic experiences of different severity? The next question to ask, who gets to define if your interpretation of a situation makes it traumatic, or not? The only person qualified is yourself as you are the one that lived it, and you are the one that gave the situation weight.
Think about this..... two children (from the same parents) are playing in the yard, one tends to have the dare-devil streak and the other seemed to be born more reserved and cautious. Are either children wrong or inferior because of their make up? NO! Lets take it another step.
At one time a playful dog came into the yard and approached from behind the reserved child and started barking with excitement. Now, this is where it gets interesting. The dare devil child was more than happy to play with the dog and tumble with it. This little was was more adventurous to begin with and also saw the dog coming. The reserved child however received a shock when the dog barked and bounced on him, because he didn't see or hear it coming. Two different interpretations from seemingly similar situations. Yes, one child saw the dog coming, and the other didn't. Consider though what the children FELT and interpreted from the experience. The more reserved child from that time was always on edge and anxious around dogs, more so when they barked, and other child just loved dogs all the more and couldn't see the problem of his friend. Though he wanted to encourage his friend to be ok with dogs, he would also tease his friend when he pulled away from dogs.
So, what has happened?
There are two parts playing out. First is the person's nature they are born with, the second is the meaning the children associated with the situation. The reserved child was shocked and with the release of adrenaline flooding his body the cells were primed for the fear, flight and fight response.
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I love how parables gives unending wisdom that is still relevant in today's time.
Once upon a time, there was an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years.
One day his horse ran away.
Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit.
"Such bad luck," they said sympathetically, "you must be so sad."
"We’ll see," the farmer replied.
The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it two other wild horses.
"How wonderful," the neighbors exclaimed!
"Not only did your horse return, but you received two more.
What great fortune you have!"
"We’ll see," answered the farmer.
The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown off, and broke his leg.
The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. "Now your son cannot help you with your farming," they said. "What terrible luck you have!"
"We’ll see," replied the old farmer.
The following week, military officials came to the village to conscript young men into the army.
Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. "Such great news. You must be so happy!"
The man smiled to himself and said once again.
One of the lessons in this parable is: Anything that happens in life is neither GOOD or BAD, because you never know the consequences of misfortune OR good fortune until enough time has passed.
Another is the that God, Universe, spirit has your back and the more we trust without reacting from the space of our own expectations of how things 'should' be, life is easier! When we move through life with the intent to be the best we can be with what we have, and practice mindful interaction and not reactive interaction life is so much easier.
When we create ease and Grace, allowance and Gratitude we send a message out to the world that we are productive, easy to work with and an enabler of life. On the Law of Attraction principles it is easier for us to receive more of the same.
We have all been there, so many things going on, people expecting of you, the bigger expectation that we place on ourselves. I ask, from where did these expectations start? I can only speak for myself, but I know many people have said similar things.
Our reality, if we believe in the law of attraction theory is a reflection of what and how we see life. We are looking through our filters that we have created over our journey to date. When we start to make changes, doing things differently, putting on different hats and responses, the deeper parts of ourselves that are not in alignment with the new us can create friction stress, pain and a range of other symptoms. It is at these times taking time out to reflect, being gentle and allowing the thoughts, memories and discomforts come to the surface to be transformed and allowed to be let go of.
When this happens flow comes back oh, so much easier, life feels and becomes more productive again, we become happier and at peace again. Our body supports our dreams again, and shows to us that we are on track again.
Sabotage is a common, almost natural response to change. We all have our own sabotage scripts that get triggered when we start to move towards something good for us, or out of our comfort zone. It is the mind’s way of resisting change and keeping us in the known, comfort zone. Sabotage is easiest to see when things are moving forward and is a self-protection mechanism designed to keep you safe because somewhere in our past you have made an association ‘that this = that and from here on, I (the subconscious) must ensure it doesn’t happen again’.
If we dissect the mechanism, it can be seen as the younger you acting out, overriding the adult you in the name of protecting the infant you. For instance, the adult you might be choosing healthier foods when suddenly a locked-in belief or feeling about a what it is like to be healthier, younger, or happier and a negative consequence that created. You might have been picked on, teased, or even leered at in the past for looking and feeling good. The similar event – looking and feeling good has activated the fear side and the sabotage will do what it can to protect you from re-enacting the previous teasing, being picked on or being in danger. Or maybe you took on the belief that you don’t deserve to be lighter and beautiful and this is woken up during the change. WHAM! The sabotage will do all it can to stop you in our tracks, does the opposite to what you have chosen to do, and makes you feel not so good about our self. Sabotage has the potential to stop or slow down our progress.
Sabotage is a very common and powerful tool the subconscious mind uses to protect us from the unknown, or to make sure we are not putting ourselves in harm's way. If we don't explore our sabotages, we are likely to get so far, and our efforts are derailed. We start to procrastinate, find reasons why we shouldn't, get distracted with shiny new ideas or objects, keep searching for the magic bullet to make the changes easier and faster. Unfortunately, sabotages are also very good at hiding, just like in real life those who sabotage others progress do so undercover or in the depths of the night so they are not found out. After all, it is illegal to cause harm to others, or their property. You have an Inner Child that represents our emotions and primal needs.
You have an Adult self that needs to get stronger so it can nurture our Inner Child and learn from our sabotager so you can reach our potential for greater life and love. There is huge blessings to be found when we choose to learn from our sabotages and not ignore or fight them, they really are like the safety circuit breaker in the electrical meter box. When it trips, it is saying there is a problem in the electrical systems, get it checked and fixed before you potentially have an electrical house fire to contend with. The same in our life. If we ignore the early warning signs, this circuit breaker kicks in and stops us from progressing towards that which we really want to achieve.
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The season has changed, summer is coming and the print of the book 'What the mind sees, the body creates, feels and attracts' getting closer there is excitement in the air. The theme of the book is how we create biochemical change from our subconscious, the foods we eat, microbiome and our actions. Since the subconscious doesn't know the difference between what is 'real' or not and it responds to the emotional imprints created over time, the greater energy or emotional imprint, the stronger the belief we hold about ourselves, and how our life 'should' be.
The subconscious works with images and emotions. Like the squeaky wheel, or how deep ruts are created when the same track is walked on, the more frequently heard and felt messages become more ingrained they become. Emotions are anchors to the body which means the more emotion we feel around a statement, the body will work hard at recreating this feeling becuase it thinks that is what we want more of. We must want to stay there as we have anchored the feeling in our body. This process works for the positive and negative emotions, and so it is our duty to be clear as to what we do, and choose to have in our body and life. If we want more good in our life, put lots of positive feelings with affirming statements, the body will work to recreating that feeling and therefore change of physiological state. (the opposite is equally true. More we say we don't want, or we don't like etc, and we have an emotion with it, the body will work towards re-creating just what you don't want.)
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