The value of being gentle with yourself

We have all been there, so many things going on, people expecting of you, the bigger expectation that we place on ourselves.  I ask, from where did these expectations start?  I can only speak for myself, but I know many people have said similar things. 

• Parents' hope for our future and so we learnt marks and school were important
• Teachers' reinforcements, encouragement and projections of the society's expectations
• Media messages of how to think, act, buy, respond etc. 
• Daydreaming and creating stories that give hope - If I do this, this will happen; If I be this, then I will get the love, attention, the needs filled. 
• Wanting to be and create something different, based on what could be, and then searching for the answers of how to be and create the mythical world we created in our head based on the movies, books read, what we see, hear and think to be the answer, the escape from our wounded selves. 

What happens when we make choices, and it seems the universe is conspiring against us, or is it the other way around?  The world is asking us to stop, think and re-evaluate if we are doing the right things in the right way for the now along our journey of life.  

Our reality, if we believe in the law of attraction theory is a reflection of what and how we see life.  We are looking through our filters that we have created over our journey to date.  When we start to make changes, doing things differently, putting on different hats and responses, the deeper parts of ourselves that are not in alignment with the new us can create friction stress, pain and a range of other symptoms.  It is at these times taking time out to reflect, being gentle and allowing the thoughts, memories and discomforts come to the surface to be transformed and allowed to be let go of.  

When this happens flow comes back oh, so much easier, life feels and becomes more productive again, we become happier and at peace again.  Our body supports our dreams again, and shows to us that we are on track again. 

• Life is a process, a journey and while I am not at the pinnacle of transformation I would like to think that progress is being made.​
• What has worked for me?  Being gentle and taking time out to allow the emotions to come up and see the lesson/message they are telling me.  ​
• Working through the talking gentle or the balcony activity that is the my latest book What the Mind Sees, the Body Feels, Creates and Attracts. ​
• Consciously forgive my part in how things have happened in the past.  My journey hasn't been easy, and I have had to come to terms with many things that have happened at the hands of others, and my part I played by not being strong enough at the time, or healthy boundaries. 
• Doing things that feel good, even at times eating 'junk' food, to help bring issues to the surface.  My eating about 95% of the time is healthy so a little bit of comfort food brings balance for me, might be different for you. ​
• Ask for help when things seem too deep or too stuck to shift on my own.  

If these ideas seem feel like they could benefit you, or you would like to explore what is keeping you stuck and your body screaming out to you, then check out the ReclaimME! program it might be part of your solution.