There are so many ways we tell ourselves what we think of ourselves.  What we say in our mind when we do good, or not; when people give complements, or critique; what we choose to do that is either health supporting or not. 
 
Life happens, but it is how we interact with life that determines how ‘well’ we live it.   It all occurs based on our choices and self respecting our needs at any given moment.  I am not promoting anyone to neglect commitments, or to ignore abuse or withhold from others. What I am promoting with this concept is,  first get clear of what is important to you, and from this space make choices that support your values, and those who are important to you.

  Compromise is part of this, but when they are consciously made and negotiated from a place of love, for self and the others involved. It creates a very different feel and outcome. 
 
If we continue to do what we have always done, as the saying goes, we will get what have always gotten.  Is this how you see the rest of your life?  There is no judgement here, and I will support people which ever way they choose, as long as the choices are not morally, ethically or against my personal value system. Just like you, I too have the choice to say no, and most certainly done so in the past, even when close family members expected me to participate in blackmail or other unsavory actions and thoughts.  There has to be a line in each person’s life where we stand for what they honestly believe in and while it is painful to let those people go with love to follow their chosen life path, self care, respect and honor is important and each of us are required to assess and stand for what we believe in.

The wheel of life is a useful tool to help you identify where you perceive yourself to be in your life in relation to the various life compartments such as Relationship, Work/Career, Relaxation, Health etc. 

Without knowing where you feel you are, and being honest about this with yourself, it can be a challenge to know what could be contributing to your health/wellness or your dis-satisfaction.  To start the process, download the Wheel of Life information and activity shhet

We all talk to ourselves, and beside the common thought that self talkers are going insane, I would suggest the opposite.  Each voice we hear is a messenger in disguise, and certainly holds pearls of wisdom if you are open to talking with them as you would talk to a pal or trusted friend. 

TO start the process, download the information and activity sheet and start really talking with yourself to learn, grown and heal.