Forgiveness I think is one of the hardest things to do, besides parenting. Forgiveness asks us to reach the point of understanding, tolerance and appreciation for the other person's point of view. Not an easy feat when we are hurting badly at the hand of someone else's choices.
Holding on and not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Resentment and heavy emotions are toxic, lowers your energetic vibration and changes body function.
DownI will challenge you on this point. Everyone, even yourself act from a place of your past experiences, the way you see life, your beliefs and what is important to you. These are your truths, the way you live your life. You want others to respect your choices and see your point of view. You, and only you are responsible for what you think, say and do. How you react or respond and it is your responsibility to make conscious choices from a place awareness of what you are doing. Autopilot will happen, and in the early phase of change, that is all we act from - doing what we have always thought, said and done. But, so has everyone else.
As we start to become more aware, we need to own our 'stuff' check through what we think, say and do and see if they are things we choose to think, say and do, and use them wisely. We are in control of how we react or respond, how we feel and what we choose to hold onto.
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Knowing where you are, and where you would like to be in the various parts of your life is invaluable. As the saying goes Awareness is the First Step. Without awareness, we really don't know what, or why we might like to consider anything different. We become complacent, lazy and stagnant and we wonder why life can be quite boring.
This exercise starts you to think where you are and which parts of your life you might like to change. Have fun, and be sure to be gentle with yourself. If you have been asleep for a while, we have all done it and may well do so again in the future. :)
Wheel of Life Activity.
Introduction into the personal philosophy I live and teach. Embedded in the script are links to worksheets from the RecalimME! program. You might be interested in exploring this more.
Just be putting out to the universe your intent to explore has already started the ball rolling, so to speak, so don't be too surprised things start to change. Like most change things can seem to go backwards before going forward again, so hang in there :)
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Many of us have little idea of the good happening in our life, or we compartmentalise good things with arbitrary rules about what counts and what doesn’t. In the past we may have been told it was selfish to look after our own needs, and we had no right to ask for what we needed, wanted or desired. We may have been told to reject or minimise complements or that people wanted something from us if they acknowledged a skill or our looks.
We might think when people step in and help is a good thing, and a real way they show you they care, but when people give a compliment, you put it down or become suspicious. We all have our own love language currency, but just because the deposits are not being made in our primary currency, doesn't mean good is not happening.
We could be pushing away positive reflective self-care and not even realize.
The philosophy in ReclaimMe! is that “all things are insights and a reflection of ourselves”, and we’re going to get into the habit of tracking, appreciating and acknowledging all forms of who we are.
There are two different things to track. 1. Reflective self-care that are positive acts demonstrated by others, 2. Self-Care what we see in and do for ourselves.
Reflective self-care is all forms of actions, complements, help, support encouragement, conversations, all things done by or interactions with others.
Self Care is how we listen, nurture and care for ourselves in thought, deed and action.
This activity shows the what you are putting out there, what you are attracting, and also to increase your level of gratitude when you’re feeling less than cared for, and want you are desiring. Don’t worry if all the things don’t happen on the same day, the more you get into the rhythm of noticing, the more you will see.
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222 Ideas of how to say to your self "I love you, you are important to me" Life gets easier when we love ourselves, and give ourselves the care we would to another. If you are stuck as to what it might look like to look after you, consider how you help others, and give them comfort, encouragement and treats, just for them being themselves.
Download the list and insight activity.
We have all done it, self criticised, bullied ourselves in the idea of making a different thought, action feeling. Often what we say to ourselves we wouldn't say to our best friend, but we seem to give ourselves permission to say the most hurtful, unproductive things.
Once we start to take stock of what and how we are talking to ourselves, we can start to make amends, and start to heal. After all, as children we are sponges, and believe what we are told by the adults or others around us. The more emotionally charged the words, the more ingrained it can become and deeper into our psyche, invading all parts of our life and interactions.
Take heart you are innocent and so not what we we often tell ourselves that we are; however, as adults now, it is not acceptable to beat ourselves up any more, It is causing harm, limiting you, interfering with your relationships, growth, destiny. Now is the time to reclaim you, to take stock of
Talking Gently exercise gives you the opportunity recognise these parts of you, to let them go and forgive yourself for holding onto them for so long, and others you instilled into you all those years ago.
You really don't have anything to loose, but a lot to gain. The best bit is it ripples into every part of your life, creating a positive impact in yourself and your adventures.
What we see, and feel we attract, this is a Universal Law that plays out all the time, literally. To help you create the type of person you want to be, and not only the person showing up now, this exercise helps you to explore just this. The premise of this self-expressive writing exercise helps you to imagine your ideal future. A life of your own making! The best part it works, if you do the second part of working through harmful or non-conducive behaviour.
You could see this exercise as a blueprint for your aspirations, and creating a map with balance, hard work, discipline and motivation you can achieve your vision. Download the full exercise
The mind, is powerful, I am sure not many would disagree with this. It senses, feels, interprets, stores information. We think things through and we dream about the future. What happens though when things don't seem to work in our favor, or we get hit by a lefthand curve?
Conflict, difficult times and circumstances are an opportunity to see who and what we are made up of.
Like most good things, there needs to be a plan of getting you from where you are, to where you want to go. In the case of food related issues, it is about embracing your who being, and supporting the body, and mind through the change, and allowing spirit - your knowing self to guide you, with help.
Food intolerance is such an insidious thing. There are so many crossing over of symptoms with other conditions, and I think it is because in so many conditions, food intolerance is a major contributing factor.
If we continue to eat foods or put substances into our body, that fire off the immune, neural pathways and disrupt the hormones etc, then we are going to eventually be diagnosed with a syndrome or disease. In the mean time, vague and weird symptoms and very little pathology is often all we have to work with, and so need to go through the process of trial and see. There is always an emotional and stress response attached the process which needs to be managed.
The overview of the steps are here, and it is important to get your head around the process before getting lost in the quagmire mystery that is Food Intolerances.