Sabotage is a common, almost natural response to change. We all have our own sabotage scripts that get triggered when we start to move towards something good for us, or out of our comfort zone. It is the mind’s way of resisting change and keeping us in the known, comfort zone. Sabotage is easiest to see when things are moving forward and is a self-protection mechanism designed to keep you safe because somewhere in our past you have made an association ‘that this = that and from here on, I (the subconscious) must ensure it doesn’t happen again’.
If we dissect the mechanism, it can be seen as the younger you acting out, overriding the adult you in the name of protecting the infant you. For instance, the adult you might be choosing healthier foods when suddenly a locked-in belief or feeling about a what it is like to be healthier, younger, or happier and a negative consequence that created. You might have been picked on, teased, or even leered at in the past for looking and feeling good. The similar event – looking and feeling good has activated the fear side and the sabotage will do what it can to protect you from re-enacting the previous teasing, being picked on or being in danger. Or maybe you took on the belief that you don’t deserve to be lighter and beautiful and this is woken up during the change. WHAM! The sabotage will do all it can to stop you in our tracks, does the opposite to what you have chosen to do, and makes you feel not so good about our self. Sabotage has the potential to stop or slow down our progress.
Sabotage is a very common and powerful tool the subconscious mind uses to protect us from the unknown, or to make sure we are not putting ourselves in harm's way. If we don't explore our sabotages, we are likely to get so far, and our efforts are derailed. We start to procrastinate, find reasons why we shouldn't, get distracted with shiny new ideas or objects, keep searching for the magic bullet to make the changes easier and faster. Unfortunately, sabotages are also very good at hiding, just like in real life those who sabotage others progress do so undercover or in the depths of the night so they are not found out. After all, it is illegal to cause harm to others, or their property. You have an Inner Child that represents our emotions and primal needs.
You have an Adult self that needs to get stronger so it can nurture our Inner Child and learn from our sabotager so you can reach our potential for greater life and love. There is huge blessings to be found when we choose to learn from our sabotages and not ignore or fight them, they really are like the safety circuit breaker in the electrical meter box. When it trips, it is saying there is a problem in the electrical systems, get it checked and fixed before you potentially have an electrical house fire to contend with. The same in our life. If we ignore the early warning signs, this circuit breaker kicks in and stops us from progressing towards that which we really want to achieve.
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