Yes, there is an assumption that all or at least most people find change difficult, but after years of observation, I do think it is an accurate assessment.
Change, unless it is forced upon us with enough pain - loss; significant rug pulling, left field change many of us will not change quickly or easily. This is of interest.
We know and can see how things could be easier, lighter, better if we consciously choose to change, but yet, we hide, stay back, shy away from doing the action required to create the dream we have in our mind's eye.
There are a few reasons, which ones hold true for you?
If you require support or knowledge around change, then there are several ways I can do this.
With three days to go before the monumental beginning of 2017, many are either in recovery mode from the year that was, or preparing for the 2017.
Personally, for myself it is about taking time out to clean up loose ends, reflect on the good, the things that were challenges, and congratulate myself on the things that I have improved in. Just like children, if we don't praise ourselves or at least recognise the good we do in any situation, we start to become disenchanted with ourselves and our lives. One serious reason to complete 'A Daily Reflection' activity. Not just about gratitude, but an actual lesson prompting thought process so the next day can be different from the one just lived.
Other benefits of this type of meditation, is that we can ask powerful questions, regularly which speeds up the change process, helps to create a greater sense of control over situations, which in turn help create mental and emotional wellbeing.
A sample of the types of questions to ask each day and what positive reinforcements you can create to perpetuate change.
In your Life’s Journal record the following for the day:
What great thing happened today?
Place this in your achievement board.
What emotions and feelings did you feel with?
What memories arose during these experiences?
What theme, or common emotions, if any were there between the memories?
What is the lesson for today’s ‘interesting’ experience/s?
What dreams or hopes where unleashed during today?
Place these on your dream board.
What future steps or actions are you to take to achieve your goals?
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Celebrate the wins, even the small things of :
Knowing that we all act from stored memories or historic reactions in our sub-conscious, asking or reflecting on the associations between then and know helps to let go of the past 'issues' if they are not serving you. Again, like a child that is finally being heard, the emotions and memories start to give up their frequent attention seeking whine. Completing more powerful healing work on really powerful and hurtful memories is beneficial and if you need help to get through the big stuff, ask.
The part of the process when you have seen the good you have done and created and acknowledging the previous associations, one can choose to keep the lessons, and let go of the reactions. Asking the following questions can really make a massive forward projection change in state, but also start the conspiracy with the universe as to what can be created from here on.
Asking the following question at the end of each day, the beginning of each day, when we have planning or change discussions with colleagues, friends or family; change in planned activities, almost in every situation, a background dialogue can speed up the clarity required to make powerful and respecting decisions and therefore action.
The theme of the questions may change depending on the type of discussion or decisions required. For instance, if you are planning the next day around family activities, part of the goal could be "To enhance connection with the children/partner and make memories" The theme with a work project likely quite different "The end goal is to really bring this together so I can get the bonus or the recognition I need.
The questions following "What is the gaol?" helps create steps of creation towards achieving the ultimate goal, whatever it is.
At the end of the day, every single second of time can alter the projection of your life. You are ultimately in charge of everything that happens in you, to you and around you. You are in charge of the thoughts you allow to float up and stay vs floating and leaving. It is a choice to choose not to be aware or conscious about what is going on in and around you.
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Remember, it takes courage to become aware, to make different choices and ask for help.
So, dig out your courage you had when you were a toddler and you were fearlessly determined to walk, run and play
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