hen we are going through life's challenges we can feel overwhelmed, and big emotions do come up. Over my time, there have been many deep valley moments, and each time, I needed to learn another deeper core truth about the limiting belief/s that were ready to show up and transform. 

There are always silver linings and blessing in all things we do, but the bigger the issue, bigger the potential healing blessing, waiting to be discovered.  

My life purpose is to challenge and support people. I don't mean to go out of my way to make people uncomfortable, but when we become uncomfortable or challenged, we have the opportunity for develop clarity and choices.   

The one reason why I am so comfortable to challenge people is because I have challenged myself all my life.

See, I was never good enough as a child so I made it my mission to learn how to look after me, and ultimately I needed to learn how to love and accept myself.  My journey of learning about my gaps and hurts meant I have explored so many different wounds and at the core point of each was a sense of not being enough.  How did this show up?

• Not skinny enough - developed anorexia
• Not smart enough - studied my butt off moving from a D/C average to A average in 2 years
• Not loved enough - loved till the point of losing my self, my identity, self belief, and scaring people away
• Not worthy enough - fought to prove myself and pushed others away in the process
• Not lovable - developed depression and starting drinking to make the heartache real pain
• Not important enough - pushed through with perfectionism, study, busy-ness to distract and neglect myself

The silver lining of my experiences is quite simple.

• I had to learn how to accept and love me
• I have been exposed to so many different modalities of inner healing, clients get the benefit.  This is either in nutrition by my search to understand how the body has failed; by the mind and emotional work that innately linked to the body, and emotional health.
• By healing me, I have much greater empathy for those who have lived through similar or the same hells I have.
• Each time I was forced to look at my shadow side, not only did I learn how, when and why that part went into hiding, but helping the shadow to have its voice, to tell my its story.  This has been transcribed into my books.

I ask you, what changes would you also like?

• To be more ok with who and what you are
• Shift big emotions of guilt, shame and grief so you can reconnect with yourself and others with love?
• Reclaim a dream that has been on hold for how long? To take positive steps forward again to remember what love feels like, in your heart of hearts, because we are all love, but it gets lost with time and pain.
• Or as so many clients report "I feel free-er, lighter, happier. I'm going through the (book, exercises, mantras) and I just feel better.  My mind is calmer and my ...... are talking with me again.

How could your life change if you -

• learnt how to talk with yourself with more compassion and self care?
• increased your self love which made it easier to choose foods, drink and activities that fed your body and not mask the pain?
• saw your true value as being lovable, important and progressing and 'faulty' which translate to self acceptance and empathy?

Imagine for a moment, or many how your life could be different.  Again, some of the experiences myself and clients have come to enjoy are quite profound. We have a stronger mind, love and connection with yourself and also with those love and admire.  We have given up the feelings of being invisible, unimportant or even hated and embarrassed our own uniqueness and with this, people treat us differently and with higher regard.

This sounds good, does it not? Secure your spot in the ReclaimME! Spring Clean program and learn about you and where you want to go. 

Yes, there is an assumption that all or at least most people find change difficult, but after years of observation, I do think it is an accurate assessment.

Change, unless it is forced upon us with enough pain - loss; significant rug pulling, left field change many of us will not change quickly or easily. This is of interest.

We know and can see how things could be easier, lighter, better if we consciously choose to change, but yet, we hide, stay back, shy away from doing the action required to create the dream we have in our mind's eye.

There are a few reasons, which ones hold true for you?

• We are in a known, predictable state and so to change and do things differently is just too scary and foreign. It is better to stay in the familiar, after all, you already know the dance steps. Change the dance, and it is becomes too unpredictable and causes too much stress.
• Our worthiness issues come up screaming, keeping us small and 'safe'. If we step out of the norm, we run the risk of being ostracised, rejected from our current circle of contacts. Humans are very herd/group orientated mammals and if we risk stepping outside the safety of our group/clan/mob, then we run the risk of isolation, with little or no support and being alone. For many, this is not an option
• Our DNA and our cells have become 'wired' that keep rejuvenating with each cell division. By changing our thoughts and dreams alone, is simply not enough. We need to change at a much deeper level, at the cell level to create a ture vibration change become confident at our core and enable our body to regenerate healthier. This can be achieved with guided meditation, hypnotherapy, energy work; exercise, stress management, healthy sleep patterns, food choices, breathe work, detoxing, low irritant foods, supplements as needed and basically caring for our physical body.
  
• We now know a lot more about the interrelationship between food chemicals and our moods, body function and triggers. Finding our personal trigger points for less than health and we go a long way towards coping with change.
• Our beliefs - yes those things we consider to be 'our normal' or what is right for our life and our world. These have been inherited, embedded, influenced by, dictated etc from so many different sources, it is challenging to define what we created/own by our choice and what are really other's hopes, dreams and expectations for ourselves and life. As we work through our belief and value systems, we create the opportunity to heal, let go, polish and transform these beliefs into positive,  empowering ones which in turn enable a higher vibration,in turn making healthier choices much, much easier.

So, which of the above, and others contribute to your speed of change? There is no right or wrong, it just is. Everything and everyone is in the right place at the right time to create the experiences for evolution, empathy for others and to encourage us to evolve into our life purpose, and this is as unique as our very own DNA.
If you require support or knowledge around change, then there are several ways I can do this.