Feelings are the chemical reaction in the body when emotions are triggered from a memory, a song, hearing a phrase or someone pushing out buttons - good and not so good. All these are created early in life and reinforced with life experiences.
How we deal with these emotions are influenced by a number of things.
Our beliefs of what is acceptable feelings and the story we hold around them. Example -
"Don't rock the boat" is often referring to keeping upsets, hurts and different points of view to ourselves. Yet, this escalates confusion, disconnection, frustration and potentially resentment.
How shut down one is - do you allow yourself to feel all the emotions, or do you avoid, distract or ignore some emotions because they are uncomfortable, or even scare you? For example using distracting habits such as drinking, excessive socialising or spending to avoid feeling alone, not connected or isolated.
Our view of others - do you have some people on a pedestal or higher regard, and think/feel you are less than? Do you see other's 'faults', yet this is often a projection of what we think about ourselves. There are so many more aspects how each day we hold back, keep ourselves from being real and authentic to ourselves that trigger dis-ease, create social and physical symptoms and reduce our living experiences.
There is hope though and it is never too late to help the earlier experiences change into healthier, happier ones, creating more peace, connection and compassion for the way you feel about you and others.
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Yes, there is an assumption that all or at least most people find change difficult, but after years of observation, I do think it is an accurate assessment.
Change, unless it is forced upon us with enough pain - loss; significant rug pulling, left field change many of us will not change quickly or easily. This is of interest.
We know and can see how things could be easier, lighter, better if we consciously choose to change, but yet, we hide, stay back, shy away from doing the action required to create the dream we have in our mind's eye.
There are a few reasons, which ones hold true for you?
If you require support or knowledge around change, then there are several ways I can do this.
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