Feelings are the chemical reaction in the body when emotions are triggered from a memory, a song, hearing a phrase or someone pushing out buttons - good and not so good. All these are created early in life and reinforced with life experiences.

How we deal with these emotions are influenced by a number of things.

Our beliefs of what is acceptable feelings and the story we hold around them. Example -

"Don't rock the boat" is often referring to keeping upsets, hurts and different points of view to ourselves. Yet, this escalates confusion, disconnection, frustration and potentially resentment.

How shut down one is - do you allow yourself to feel all the emotions, or do you avoid, distract or ignore some emotions because they are uncomfortable, or even scare you? For example using distracting habits such as drinking, excessive socialising or spending to avoid feeling alone, not connected or isolated.

Our view of others - do you have some people on a pedestal or higher regard, and think/feel you are less than? Do you see other's 'faults', yet this is often a projection of what we think about ourselves. There are so many more aspects how each day we hold back, keep ourselves from being real and authentic to ourselves that trigger dis-ease, create social and physical symptoms and reduce our living experiences.

There is hope though and it is never too late to help the earlier experiences change into healthier, happier ones, creating more peace, connection and compassion for the way you feel about you and others.

Grab your copy of 20 Pivotal Questions. The quality of your life depends on clean, heathy, nurturing beliefs.  

Yes, there is an assumption that all or at least most people find change difficult, but after years of observation, I do think it is an accurate assessment.

Change, unless it is forced upon us with enough pain - loss; significant rug pulling, left field change many of us will not change quickly or easily. This is of interest.

We know and can see how things could be easier, lighter, better if we consciously choose to change, but yet, we hide, stay back, shy away from doing the action required to create the dream we have in our mind's eye.

There are a few reasons, which ones hold true for you?

• We are in a known, predictable state and so to change and do things differently is just too scary and foreign. It is better to stay in the familiar, after all, you already know the dance steps. Change the dance, and it is becomes too unpredictable and causes too much stress.
• Our worthiness issues come up screaming, keeping us small and 'safe'. If we step out of the norm, we run the risk of being ostracised, rejected from our current circle of contacts. Humans are very herd/group orientated mammals and if we risk stepping outside the safety of our group/clan/mob, then we run the risk of isolation, with little or no support and being alone. For many, this is not an option
• Our DNA and our cells have become 'wired' that keep rejuvenating with each cell division. By changing our thoughts and dreams alone, is simply not enough. We need to change at a much deeper level, at the cell level to create a ture vibration change become confident at our core and enable our body to regenerate healthier. This can be achieved with guided meditation, hypnotherapy, energy work; exercise, stress management, healthy sleep patterns, food choices, breathe work, detoxing, low irritant foods, supplements as needed and basically caring for our physical body.
  
• We now know a lot more about the interrelationship between food chemicals and our moods, body function and triggers. Finding our personal trigger points for less than health and we go a long way towards coping with change.
• Our beliefs - yes those things we consider to be 'our normal' or what is right for our life and our world. These have been inherited, embedded, influenced by, dictated etc from so many different sources, it is challenging to define what we created/own by our choice and what are really other's hopes, dreams and expectations for ourselves and life. As we work through our belief and value systems, we create the opportunity to heal, let go, polish and transform these beliefs into positive,  empowering ones which in turn enable a higher vibration,in turn making healthier choices much, much easier.

So, which of the above, and others contribute to your speed of change? There is no right or wrong, it just is. Everything and everyone is in the right place at the right time to create the experiences for evolution, empathy for others and to encourage us to evolve into our life purpose, and this is as unique as our very own DNA.
If you require support or knowledge around change, then there are several ways I can do this.