Over the past few weeks, I have been asked a few times "What is hypnotherapy, how does it work, and what happens?" 
Let's explore this together.  
I was first introduced to hypnotherapy and guided meditations with the intent to heal the past way back in 2008.  My desire to get rid of the pain in my heart after the divorce and to start feeling stronger, and better again.  Mind, I didn't know what the meant either.  

Over the years, I have used and practiced slightly different styles, but the basic premise is the same - to support clients to venture into their subconscious where all memories and stories we live are stored.  Now, the storage location can be in memories section of the brain, but also in the muscles, organs and cells which is why hypnotherapy for diseases can be so profound. 

The client is always aware of what is going on, and they are in charge of the process, and my role is to really ask questions as I would in a clinical conversation.  The subconscious knowns all, so it is very able to dialogue with the therapist too.  As the client is guided to their deepest selves, their highest self is also invited to be part of the process. What I mean by this is the part of the person that is connected to God, The Universe, Source, that only wants the best for us, and that is to feel and live in the feeling of love, joy, and peace.  Therefore, having this guiding force as the leader, also equates to having a very loving, power with the intent of love working with the client, and myself through out the entire session. 

The 'steps' as a general rule is what happens, keep in mind, each session and person is different.

• Preparation is the key.  The subconscious is ready, it knows what is happening, but first we need to be sure the body is.  
• What the client sees to be the problem, what they want the outcome to be, and how they will know it has been resolved. 
• Medication, health issues are checked to ensure extra support is in place, or if hypnosis is appropriate. If not, then other modalities can be used to support the client.
• The client is asked to get comfortable, sitting or laying down, eyes open or closed. 
• We walk down the steps together, so to speak, and open into the area of the mind or body area that chooses to be explored, and then the fun begins.  
• We go back in time to three different times they experienced similar to the issue in question for the session.  We explore these memories, feelings, meanings and lessons for each, to link together later. 
• We do inner child work to help the younger you gain insight into what and why things happened. 

Often the other people involved really didn't realise the hurt they created, or they honestly didn't have the skill, knowledge, wisdom or ability to do things differently.
Our parents and grandparent's era was very different to what we now know to be healthy, wise and helpful. 
They also didn't have trained therapists etc like we do these days.
Finances were very different and priorities reflect the social norms of the time. 
Most of the time 99.5% of the time, the responsible person is honestly so sorry, shamed and guilt ridden about what happened.

I think, innately people seek to be heard, appreciated and connect with others, yet to do this well, we need to address parts of the past that have hidden our ability to do this.  Consider the infant, who when born seem to melt even the hardest of hearts, how and why? Babies are pure and filled with love.  
Fast forward through life experiences of not always being supported, encouraged, fed or loved, simply because parents are tired and usually working with their own unfilled needs and not able to be fully present.  
Not their fault or the infants, but a reality. In truth, unless one is malicious we really are doing the best we can with what we have learnt and developed. Not everyone has been born into well-adapted, healthy, feeling adults who have worked through their own life scares. 
As a result, we accidentally pass our hurts, fears, limitations, expectations, failed dreams etc onto our children, unintentionally we perpetuate the dramas, improve in some areas, worsen others.  
What if though we took the courage needed to address our fears, limitations and scares we have to hide behind the masks and armour we wear to protect ourselves from being triggered, and often with the intent to protect others from the black holes we think will hurt our loved ones.  
What if, we dived into these parts and filled them with light and love? Imagine how life experiences can be lived with more love, passion, connection because we filled from the inside out and softening of the armour so more love can leave, and we can connect with others more authentically. 
This is what I help people do. How do I know? I had to do just this after my third life attempt. I figured if I wasn't allowed to die then I needed to learn to live. 
Everyone wants to feel love and acceptance, but do we really need to wait till we are desperate or living a half-life to dig into ourselves so we can live more fully? Learn to know yourself so you can create your Life on YOUR Terms according to your values and desires. From love. ​

Is it as simple as turning off, or shutting down, unplugging for a bit. It can be.
Turn of distractions - those things, people, noise, media etc that take you away from peace and towards unsettled.
Shut down the thinking processes with meditation and prayer. At a minimum deep, focused breathing.
Unplug by walking away and letting go of the drama and people/situations that create it.
Detail the best of the situations and develop your focus towards this.
Who do you want to be?
What do you want to be doing?
What does this look, feel and sound like?
What are you doing, being and experiencing?
What sounds are you hearing, who is saying what about you?
Make it all positive.
When the negative, resistance and the pull back comes through, write these down and then do the forgiveness prayer for each limiting belief and fear that came through.
Tap it out
Hand them over to your highest source and thank them for removing these from your thought and energy field.
Delete, de-story and un-create all things across all time, dimensions and space
Then, reread the good things you choose to create to fill the void. Max out the great feelings you are going to feel as these things come to fruition.
Give it a go for a min of 10 days, and see how quickly your world starts to change, because you are changing.
How do you shift away from this level of tiredness?

Is it as simple as turning off, or shutting down, unplugging for a bit. It can be.

Turn of distractions - those things, people, noise, media etc that take you away from peace and towards unsettled.

Shut down the thinking processes with meditation and prayer. At a minimum deep, focused breathing.

Unplug by walking away and letting go of the drama and people/situations that create it.

Detail the best of the situations and develop your focus towards this.
Who do you want to be?
What do you want to be doing?
What does this look, feel and sound like?
What are you doing, being and experiencing?
What sounds are you hearing, who is saying what about you?

Make it all positive.

When the negative, resistance and the pull back comes through, write these down and then do the forgiveness prayer for each limiting belief and fear that came through.
Tap it out

Hand them over to your highest source and thank them for removing these from your thought and energy field.

Delete, de-story and un-create all things across all time, dimensions and space

Then, reread the good things you choose to create to fill the void. Max out the great feelings you are going to feel as these things come to fruition.

Give it a go for a min of 10 days, and see how quickly your world starts to change, because you are changing.

If you are unsure what the steps are or how to complete them, they are part of the RecaimME! Spring Clean program
Message me and I can share the details with you.How do you shift away from this level of tiredness?

Is it as simple as turning off, or shutting down, unplugging for a bit. It can be.

Turn of distractions - those things, people, noise, media etc that take you away from peace and towards unsettled.

Shut down the thinking processes with meditation and prayer. At a minimum deep, focused breathing.

Unplug by walking away and letting go of the drama and people/situations that create it.

Detail the best of the situations and develop your focus towards this.
Who do you want to be?
What do you want to be doing?
What does this look, feel and sound like?
What are you doing, being and experiencing?
What sounds are you hearing, who is saying what about you?

Make it all positive.

When the negative, resistance and the pull back comes through, write these down and then do the forgiveness prayer for each limiting belief and fear that came through.
Tap it out

Hand them over to your highest source and thank them for removing these from your thought and energy field.

Delete, de-story and un-create all things across all time, dimensions and space

Then, reread the good things you choose to create to fill the void. Max out the great feelings you are going to feel as these things come to fruition.

Give it a go for a min of 10 days, and see how quickly your world starts to change, because you are changing.

If you are unsure what the steps are or how to complete them, they are part of the RecaimME! Spring Clean program
Message me and I can share the details with you.

How does adversity and it's opportunity show up?

Through
'Discussions' with others.
Uncomfortable feelings,
Anxiety,
Uncertainty,
Feeling insecure,
The need to be right, when there often isn't any 'right' but different ways of seeing or doing the same action.
These are only a few of the ways things show up.

All of these 'situations and feelings' indicate there is a difference between your thoughts/actions and values.

Your feelings are not looking for judgement, but are asking us to observe and explore where we are out of alignment and being authentic.

What is happening, compared to what your hidden beliefs and rules tell you?

Where in the past have you felt unheard, bullied, hurt, victimise, wronged, damaged, violated, etc, etc, etc?
These feelings are triggered to protect from a similar situation happening again. In the now, it is about checking to see if it is valid or an overprotective memory.

How do you want to move forward from this point on?

What action do you need to take to operate from an aligned, more loving choices (to self and others) and not from fear or protection.

What skills or knowledge could you develop or learn to move forwardly more confidently to meet your goal and personal expectations for yourself.
For example, how to say no and create healthy boundaries.
Allow others to be themselves and not be bullied into doing what isn't right for you.
How to have healthy, clear, respectful and honest communication without sacrificing your own values and ethics.

Do you need to physically remove yourself from the situation and to do this, require another place, job, base to walk into first to ensure you mental, physical and emotional wellbeing.

Do you need to reach out and ask for help from trusted others, counsellor, doctor, allied health etc. to ensure you are looked after and supported.

Or, maybe you just need to have your voice and tell yourself to get on with what is needed and step into the role you are resisting.

Get over ourselves and to be honest at times 'grow up'. Take full ownership of what is happening, what is being co-created and work on your side of the situation.
Stop pussy footing around and get on with the task at hand, feel the resistance but prove to yourself your greatness and ability to do what is needed to get the job done. As Nike once said "Feel the fear and do it anyway"

After-all, fear, pain, anger etc is only large doses of unexpressed energy that can be used to propel us forward into massive action as encouraged by Anthony Robbins. ​

Feelings are the chemical reaction in the body when emotions are triggered from a memory, a song, hearing a phrase or someone pushing out buttons - good and not so good. All these are created early in life and reinforced with life experiences.

How we deal with these emotions are influenced by a number of things.

Our beliefs of what is acceptable feelings and the story we hold around them. Example -

"Don't rock the boat" is often referring to keeping upsets, hurts and different points of view to ourselves. Yet, this escalates confusion, disconnection, frustration and potentially resentment.

How shut down one is - do you allow yourself to feel all the emotions, or do you avoid, distract or ignore some emotions because they are uncomfortable, or even scare you? For example using distracting habits such as drinking, excessive socialising or spending to avoid feeling alone, not connected or isolated.

Our view of others - do you have some people on a pedestal or higher regard, and think/feel you are less than? Do you see other's 'faults', yet this is often a projection of what we think about ourselves. There are so many more aspects how each day we hold back, keep ourselves from being real and authentic to ourselves that trigger dis-ease, create social and physical symptoms and reduce our living experiences.

There is hope though and it is never too late to help the earlier experiences change into healthier, happier ones, creating more peace, connection and compassion for the way you feel about you and others.

Grab your copy of 20 Pivotal Questions. The quality of your life depends on clean, heathy, nurturing beliefs.  

Let's be honest, we all have dreams, aspirations, wishes etc, if we don't we are living a shell of a life without passion and life.

How to make big things happen, the ideas, dreams, hopes, aspirations that seem just too big to get one's head around. The one's that make your heart race in anticipated excitement or fear because the outcome could be so, so good!

Or maybe the goal for you is

• to resolve a big conflict,
• work towards a relationship or business goal back on track,
• or extend your comfort zone to be more authentic to yourself.

Whatever the goal is, there are a few things to consider and follow through with.

First things - check in the goal or aspiration is actually yours and not to appease another, or to fulfill someone else's expectation otherwise you are going to be working out of alignment with your true self. Misaligned attention is a body and mind stress.

Secondly - describe the outcome in as much detail as possible. Get descriptive, use as many adjectives as possible. Get creative. You might be more comfortable in painting, drawing, doodling making music etc..Anything to help anchor your new reality to your subconscious.

• What are you doing?
• Who are you doing these things with, if anyone?
• Where are you?
• What are you hearing? Music, words, sounds, etc.
• What do you see, who do you see?
• Colors, shapes, smells or even tastes are you enjoying?

Not sure what the goal could feel like? Watch movies, documentaries etc to help you create a visual/descriptive story to recall at a whim.

Remember, the subconscious really doesn't know the difference between a fantasy or reality, so the more times you can see, feel and anchor the goal, the more the subconscious gets on board to create it.

The side effect to this, while can be painful and challenging at times are huge, massive opportunity blessings. As you change your internal imagery, you also change your vibration and what you send out to the world - things not of similar value, vibration etc will move away. Yes, the opportunity is to heal your attachment to events, people, expectations, limiting beliefs and actions not aligned with your bigger picture.

The best part of this is life does get better, it does become lighter, clearer and more loving as you clear out the heavier beliefs, and emotions from your psyche.

Thirdly - give yourself to gift of clearing out, healing, letting go and transforming your limiting beliefs that have been holding you back all this time.

Most of the beliefs aren't even yours. You took them on at an age (before 7) before you knew enough to consciously assess the situation and make a choice. Your parents, siblings, school, culture, society etc you were exposed to gave you these and through osmosis learning, you took them on. Is it time to review these and heal the ones that really are not serving your goal?

Your self belief and self perception was also generally formed within the first 3 years of life, so again, your feeling less then, unworthy, unloved, not fitting in, not smart enough etc, stem from a time that hurt your feelings, but didn't make sense and you internalised it.

Believe me, we all have done this, we all have hang ups, some learnt bigger, harder, more isolating ideas than others.

Fourth - Learn skills, tricks of the trade, in the moment support techniques to keep the vibe high, the goal front of mind, re-affirming your conviction etc. When we do this often, many times a day, then the goal becomes easier and closer!

So, back to the original question... What is one kick butt goal you would like to achieve and what does it look, feel and be like?

If you are not sure, and are ready to take stock of your current life and learn the why, the how, heal, and grow, then the ReclaimME! Spring Clean Program is the one to start with. Combine With the ReclaimME! Transformation package, and you are one your way to a new life.

Start playing the What If... game. It is quite liberating and freeing.   

The full details are in both my What the Mind Sees Book and The Awareness and Accountability Journal.  It is also used in all the ReclaimME! programs, it is that powerful!!

Everything starts with a thought, and so we can use this to our advantage to create more of what we want.  The steps are simple enough, but the big secret is to heal and let go of the limiting beliefs that stop us from stepping into the dream.   How can I say this?  

Because it is one of the tools I use all the time to create a different outcome, and besides, all the Gurus in the Mindchange field say the same thing.  
It works in the premise of 

• as above, so below;  
• the outside is a reflection of the inside and all that. 

So, if you don't like what you are seeing in your world, in your life, then you need to change the imagery, beliefs and the life you are living in your head and body.  Be the Change You Want To See in the World.   We must be it before is can come to pass.  Hence the fun of the What If... game. 

This is what you do. 
1.  Sit in a space that you find inspiring, or makes you feel good. 
Or, what an inspirational movie, documentary etc where you can witness a win over a difficult situation. 

2.  Now, consider your life now, and where you really want it to be.
As a child, what were some of your dreams and aspirations etc.
When you look around, what do you see others doing and being and get a feeling or knowing that says "I want to do that too!!"

3.  Next is to write out, without filtering all the things you would like to be doing.  

• What does it feel like to do these things?
• Who are you doing them with?
• What are hearing around you, where are the sounds coming from? What are people saying?
• What else do you see, know, or get a sense of?
• What time frame are you seeing, feeling, and hearing these things to be happening in?

Write it out, brainstorm, give yourself permission to brain dump without filter.

4.  When you have exhausted the ideas, then allow the reasons why it can't happen, shouldn't happen objections etc.  Yes, this is confronting, potentially trigger making, painful etc, but now you get to see with more clarity 'why' you are living your life to the capacity you are now, with the limitations/handbrake on and why it is so challenging to move ahead.

The magic can happen now!!  

When we have this awareness, we can literally take our power back. 

• We can heal the past restrictions, set them free and transform the power held in them for good use and not restrictions. 
• We can forgive the past, but keep the lessons so we can catapult forward faster. 
• When we do this, the world is more than your oyster, it is a canvas upon which you are the painter, sculpter, author of how you choose to be from this point on. 

Yes, it is possible.  So many have done it before us, why not you. 

If these ideas of possibility excite you, then you are ready to take the next step into your empowered future.  
Reach out and book your session to start the ball rolling.  You don't have to take the slow road, you have an opportunity for support and steps forward to create more of what you are dreaming about. 
Book your session to start the real life changing process. It is possible and now can be your time too. 
​

hen we are going through life's challenges we can feel overwhelmed, and big emotions do come up. Over my time, there have been many deep valley moments, and each time, I needed to learn another deeper core truth about the limiting belief/s that were ready to show up and transform. 

There are always silver linings and blessing in all things we do, but the bigger the issue, bigger the potential healing blessing, waiting to be discovered.  

My life purpose is to challenge and support people. I don't mean to go out of my way to make people uncomfortable, but when we become uncomfortable or challenged, we have the opportunity for develop clarity and choices.   

The one reason why I am so comfortable to challenge people is because I have challenged myself all my life.

See, I was never good enough as a child so I made it my mission to learn how to look after me, and ultimately I needed to learn how to love and accept myself.  My journey of learning about my gaps and hurts meant I have explored so many different wounds and at the core point of each was a sense of not being enough.  How did this show up?

• Not skinny enough - developed anorexia
• Not smart enough - studied my butt off moving from a D/C average to A average in 2 years
• Not loved enough - loved till the point of losing my self, my identity, self belief, and scaring people away
• Not worthy enough - fought to prove myself and pushed others away in the process
• Not lovable - developed depression and starting drinking to make the heartache real pain
• Not important enough - pushed through with perfectionism, study, busy-ness to distract and neglect myself

The silver lining of my experiences is quite simple.

• I had to learn how to accept and love me
• I have been exposed to so many different modalities of inner healing, clients get the benefit.  This is either in nutrition by my search to understand how the body has failed; by the mind and emotional work that innately linked to the body, and emotional health.
• By healing me, I have much greater empathy for those who have lived through similar or the same hells I have.
• Each time I was forced to look at my shadow side, not only did I learn how, when and why that part went into hiding, but helping the shadow to have its voice, to tell my its story.  This has been transcribed into my books.

I ask you, what changes would you also like?

• To be more ok with who and what you are
• Shift big emotions of guilt, shame and grief so you can reconnect with yourself and others with love?
• Reclaim a dream that has been on hold for how long? To take positive steps forward again to remember what love feels like, in your heart of hearts, because we are all love, but it gets lost with time and pain.
• Or as so many clients report "I feel free-er, lighter, happier. I'm going through the (book, exercises, mantras) and I just feel better.  My mind is calmer and my ...... are talking with me again.

How could your life change if you -

• learnt how to talk with yourself with more compassion and self care?
• increased your self love which made it easier to choose foods, drink and activities that fed your body and not mask the pain?
• saw your true value as being lovable, important and progressing and 'faulty' which translate to self acceptance and empathy?

Imagine for a moment, or many how your life could be different.  Again, some of the experiences myself and clients have come to enjoy are quite profound. We have a stronger mind, love and connection with yourself and also with those love and admire.  We have given up the feelings of being invisible, unimportant or even hated and embarrassed our own uniqueness and with this, people treat us differently and with higher regard.

This sounds good, does it not? Secure your spot in the ReclaimME! Spring Clean program and learn about you and where you want to go.