Life, is what we make of it, it is the sum of choices over our time alive, and the unconscious acceptance of other people's beliefs and expectations. By now, you may be wondering why I focus so much on the mind stuff, and not giving out lots of food related 'orders' and guides. They will come, but first we need to consider what and why we do the food stuff, without awareness of what and why, nothing really changes in the long term, and we just keep doing what we have always done. Yes, small changes may be made, but from experience, they don't stick around long enough to become habits, (unless they are feeding a feeling)
Think back to the time of the day when you are feeling flat, what do you think of besides sitting down and not thinking?
What food or drink do you go for?
You have had a stressful, hard day at work; at home, what do you 'go for' because
"I need to relax"
"I have had a hard one today and I deserve this."
Are you going for carrots and celery and a big green smoothie? Some how I doubt it but might be heading to the fridge for a cold one, possibly chips or chocolate, or biscuits, possibly take away because it feels to hard. I do this too, believe it or not. Sometimes a day was just tooo hard, toooo long, and tooo stressful and I too awine or two, or maybe a Gin & Tonic. Habits such as these were easy to create and not so easy to give up, even for me.
So, what can be done. There is a process you can do in the heat of the moment, you possibly already do.
Stop! Ask? Choose.
It works better after you have done the awareness exercise, but for now, lets pull this one apart.
When the urge comes to follow a habit or knee jerk reaction, stop.
Take several deep breathes, and ask yourself:
"What is this, what emotion is here?"
"Is it mine, or did someone else give it to me?" "Do I want to continue feeling and responding like this, or not?"
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