Change, is the movement from where one is now, to where we would like, need or choose to be, but why is it so hard?
It depends on the individual, the reason, and why change is needed. At time, with disease it is important to change. Or if parts of our life are not 'working', then change is needed somewhere to create the parts more in alignment with the desired outcome.
But, and this is a big but! For a person who has not previous experience of what it feels like in the 'new' state, for instance having energy and feeling fit or happy, content relationships, or sense of security or peace and we tell these people it can be quite daunting for them, a fair amount of resistance is given. Why?
That answer if simple - we are asking, expecting or telling them to do, be or have something that is foreign, or scary or if they have previous trauma too confronting to take the steps to create change.
I have witnessed this first hand. In my growth phase and not knowing what it felt like to be content, loved, or secure. When working with people in the justice 'system', listening to their experiences and why they were so cautious about being helped; and recently listening to experiences of domestic violence trauma where now, even sleeping is difficult because the needed to learn hypervigilance to self-protect.
• If change is in our best interest, but we don't understand what it feels like, then there is resistance.
• If we are forced to change as in a disease, then the unknown is scary, confronting, and people are forced to address bigger issues about themselves and what their life habits mean.
• If one chooses to change, but has no idea of how or what to do, and have been previously repressed, then the slow approach may be needed with a lot more support and encouragement.
• Above all, seeing people where they are at. Choosing tools that work in the moment and with the person involved.
• Integrating change from the entry point needed by the individual - nutrition, support therapy or even deep diving into belief change methods.
• If you are looking to make significant changes in our health and wellbeing, then reach out. Options are varied to your need and circumstances and a quick chat can help you identify if I can support you through your next phase.
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