Life, is what we make of it, it is the sum of choices over our time alive, and the unconscious acceptance of other people's beliefs and expectations. By now, you may be wondering why I focus so much on the mind stuff, and not giving out lots of food related 'orders' and guides. They will come, but first we need to consider what and why we do the food stuff, without awareness of what and why, nothing really changes in the long term, and we just keep doing what we have always done. Yes, small changes may be made, but from experience, they don't stick around long enough to become habits, (unless they are feeding a feeling)
Think back to the time of the day when you are feeling flat, what do you think of besides sitting down and not thinking?
What food or drink do you go for?
You have had a stressful, hard day at work; at home, what do you 'go for' because
"I need to relax"
"I have had a hard one today and I deserve this."
Are you going for carrots and celery and a big green smoothie? Some how I doubt it but might be heading to the fridge for a cold one, possibly chips or chocolate, or biscuits, possibly take away because it feels to hard. I do this too, believe it or not. Sometimes a day was just tooo hard, toooo long, and tooo stressful and I too awine or two, or maybe a Gin & Tonic. Habits such as these were easy to create and not so easy to give up, even for me.
So, what can be done. There is a process you can do in the heat of the moment, you possibly already do.
Stop! Ask? Choose.
It works better after you have done the awareness exercise, but for now, lets pull this one apart.
When the urge comes to follow a habit or knee jerk reaction, stop.
Take several deep breathes, and ask yourself:
"What is this, what emotion is here?"
"Is it mine, or did someone else give it to me?" "Do I want to continue feeling and responding like this, or not?"
Friday afternoon, in Crete, Greece. The breeze is gentle, the atmosphere is relaxed and light. It is not quite one week in my mid life reset adventure, and it feels like it!! My body has coped a hiding from the travel, and new foods (I can react to several foods, and hyper sensitive to gluten, and cow milk, and spices. Great when travel foods are all these, unless one is lucky).
Few people know my true reasons for leaving the land of the down under where mighty rule the space. No, that is not quite true, it is an illusion, a power I have given to some people I know. It is more about the fact that over the years, I have allowed myself to dwindle away from the determined, independent, yet equally fiercely insecure person I was to a person where the insecure part increased and the independence dwindled. I noticed this early on, but my stigma and beliefs held me in the space of limitation, unhealthy relationships and 'following the rules'.
Over time, the need to re-balance of internal power become true strong. I had exploited my self views and associated with people who easily and willingly mirrored my fears. I knew on a deep level I needed to take back my shadow parts and reclaim my true self - love. It has been a long and painful journey, but one that was needed to live and experience, or die. Yes, that dramatic.
I have spoken with many people over the last couple of months of this journey, I made the decision and booked flights in February this year. The resounding feedback is "WOW, that is so courageous I admire what you are doing. Is this what I thought when I booked, yes and no. The entire trip by design a "where the wind may take me" experience booking only a few days ahead or even on the day. Brave, incredible or down right silly. Possibly all of these things all round into one. I am choosing to see the part of me again that can do anything, make things happen and be ok with the choices being made.
Every second is a choice. "Do I do this or that? " Choosing to not make a choice and allowing others to decide is a choice to hand over one's power to another. Be careful with whom you play this game with, as they may be more adept of looking after their own needs than you are and by default you fall into the ideals of another, and a puppet for them to play with.
I was speaking with a sales consultant for a holiday time share, as one has time for when on holiday, and the guy couldn't get a handle in where to slot me into the spiel, after all I am living most people's dream they are selling. I do, by choice work a few days a week, I have closed shop for three months, when at home I live on the beach and do as I choose more often than not. Was this luck, was it define fault, was it even conscious? I will say, a lot has been choice.
I don't want a lot, and fought for this type of a lifestyle, one that goes against the popular perception of house, car holidays, oh and don't forget the endless happy smiley moments with family and abundance of friends chucked in. It isn't a new argument that social media has a lot to answer to, but one needs to consider where did these popular thoughts actually come from, our parents and the propaganda of our forefathers, media employed to 'sell' the image the companies wanted us to buy into to sell their product. This too is not a new topic and I have spoken of it before, it is after all a rebellion trigger to what I am now doing. See I too got caught up in the ought tos of living, I ought to have a family that totally adore and love me, (I am sure they do, but it is buried in their fear and uncertainty) I ought to have a uber multi-million dollar producing business so I can sit at the beach when I choose, Oh, right I do that now.
It has taken me some time to remember to be true to me. Do I need to be color co-ordinated to leave the house, or cleaning presentable in comfortable clothes? Must I behave a certain way and work 6 days a week, create funnels and tell people they are not doing things right for their health if they are not doing A, B, or even C?
I don't think so. I have left for a three month, reset adventure which in truth started last Thursday. Since, which is only 1 week I have traveled, 1673 km in three days in Australia, then, hoped on the plane for another 15, 180 to arrive at my current location in Crete. Thankfully, I didn't need to drive the entire way, but when considering what it does to our body, one can sit back and just go wow!
What have these revelations got to do with anyone? To be honest, not sure, as we each make our own choices based on our own beliefs and values, my had become blurred and skewed from what was important, so I chose to reclaim and to me at the time seemed the best way to do it. What is yours though is for you to work out. Are you happy and if not why not, what is out of balance, what is it you are OK with to enable the bigger picture of love and life to occur? What changes in your perception, attitude, behavior, habits etc can be altered or tweaked to bring things back in order. Seeking help from a trusted and experienced support person is vital to help see through the fog that we create.
For me, I had moved too far into the forest, with fog so deep not to see easily. As a result I have left the space and things immediately started to change. I am feeling somewhat better in my mind, I have a laissez faire confidence which has opened up conversations with people at home in ways I didn't think was possible. I am finding here while talking with people they are in the same boat, which is somewhat comforting, and it is also prompting me to think one reason why I needed to leave was not to rescue myself, but to help those with whom I talk with as suggested by my counselor as to what might actually happen. So, the question then arises, am I being selfish by doing something i want/needed to do, or have I been called to help others while helping myself? Afterall, in all things the physics of cause and effect happen, and it is possible as each of reclaim more of our true selves not only do we provide the space for others to do the same, by example, but also by default give other the courage to consider another way of doing, of living.
(By the way, I didn't buy into the time share I was being 'sold' to. It worked out I made a good decision all those years ago and have a better deal. Another message this week that I have been and still are on the right path, even if it was covered in mud at the time. :)
"You cannot become who you want to become by only doing what you want to do. Don't do only what you feel like doing. Ambitiously tackle whatever's required to move toward what you aspire to" Scott Niolett
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It has been two months since I have written post here, and a lot has happened in that time. Following my own suggestions of lofty questions and completing the journal questions, to gain clarity and action a journey started that has snowballed into something totally unexpected, and the courage to do it.
My questions were around abundance, connection with family and friends, and self awareness, these came in spades, one might say. AS the saying goes, what we focus on, we attract and to be honest so many things in my life had come to a crossroad, it was becoming a health hazard. I was stale, tired and disillusioned. Things were feeling like dead-ends, brick walls and not fulfilling. For this reason, my mind really started to wonder towards what if, and what could be different - lofty questions.
The universe kicked in fairly quickly, as the notion to take off on an extended adventure, reset the button so to speak and see what happened. As a result, the following has happened
The Europe trip, 3 months of wondering the groves of the continent starts in a few weeks. Excited and a little nervous, but seeing how supported I have been in preparation reinforces to me, I just need to go and do. I have been able to create the money to pay for the ticket, I have reached out to people there who I haven't spoken to in ages and so re-connecting, The sequence of events leading up to now has been nothing short of synchronicity, in other words perfect, divine timing.
Coming back to the idea of focus. For a long time, there has been an internal struggle around 'what material things are acceptable to have'. For some, possessions, and big things at that seem to be the thing to strive for. The keeping up with the Joneses, and keeping in form according to media, and advertising. This is something I have generally not followed, I can't see the point of spending money to have the latest whatever for the sake of it. If it is needed because there isn't anything else in the house to use, then maybe, but not just because I am told I need it by the TV.
I have been fortunate to live comfortably in a van, drive a car - until it died, I eat well, what I choose, I travel, and do things that interest me. How? I choose to. I am also in the position of not needing to consider others either. I chose to do things my way. Yes, at times I think about what others might think - my kids, my ex are big testers, but the beauty of this reflection is clarity - Do I want to be bigger, more successful, more wealth at the cost of my peace, comfort and sanity. For me the answer is no. I would rather a simple life and contentment, health and emotional wealth than money that drains me.
Living simply philosophy is a good one, if one can do it, otherwise I think it would be too stressful. More so if the choice to do so was to meet another's expectation or trend, which is something I see coming through. Similar to the happiness and gratitude trend. There is a good dose of truth and health in the messages, however, like most fads the message is great until we feel we need to perform only from that space and not be real. It is impossible to always feel and be happy, content, loving and compassionate. Life can suck and big time at that, emotions of hate, anger, rage, and revenge do surface. Are these bad? No they are not, but we are told we are not healthy if we feel them, we are not living the happy way.
The balance side of this is all things are allowed to be, the good, the bad, the ugly, the painful and down right run away and hide feelings, it in how we deal with them that counts. Knee jerk or auto pilot reactions when we take time to consider them and learn from them are powerful teachers. It is then we can make changes in our thought, deeds and actions. If we can take time out and ponder the big emotions that are coming up and allow ourselves to have a conversation with the emotions to learn the lesson they are bringing to our attention then they are helpful, an art of allowance that is beautiful and healing.
For instance, if a person just annoys you, see if they are doing things that you do, but you don't particularly like - the shadow self; If there are obstacles or things just 'not working' triggering frustration or even bulldozer affect are there control issues, or insecurity about not being in control showing up. The deeper one delves into the core issue allows for fascinating realisations. You might need some professional help to take the dive, but it is worth figuring out the triggers so one acts from choice and integrity.
What is any of this got to do with you? Possibly everything or nothing. I am purely sharing to show that others are doing, what maybe you would like to do. That small changes in thoughts, focus and choice can create massive impact of change. In many ways from the living I have done to date, and learnings made has only reinforced the idea that we can only do so much the rest really is up to what our life journey is meant to be. Yes, there is a lot more depth to this statement that I have not, and are not yet ready to share, so if you the reader is willing to take a leap of faith and start considering your life, your choices to date and be honest about what your crossroad choices are and then decide what is important to you. They are your values, desires and acceptances, and no one would take them away form you. Live our life for it is truly only yours.
February is well and truly here, the sun has changed angle and the heat seems to be spiking higher. Change, in all spheres as we seem to be saying "It was never like this before....".
What changes did you commit to making this year?
Are you still on track?
If not that is ok, as every second of every day is a new beginning. It's about being clear of what you want, how you want to live and how much you are willing give up mis-aligned habits and work with the associated discomfort and pain of change to get what you really want.
Personally, I have taken to writing in awareness and lofty questions journal. It is very similar to the Awareness and Accountability Journal developed for my clients, the big difference is I am focusing on the lofty questions.
Lofty questions is a concept introduced to my by Christie Marie Sheldon from Mindvalley.com. Christie is an energy shifter whom I have listed to over the years. She has facilitated in initiating some significant changes in my life simply by opening my imagination to the possibility of 'I would like that too'. Lofty questions are designed to ask the sub-conscious to get creative in finding ways to address the focus point of the question. Potentially opening up some pretty amazing insights and shifts in focus which in turn creates different life experiences.
Some of the lofty questions she posses include:
"Why do I have more money than I need?" (Abundance and helping others?)
"Why do I have more than enough money to pay my bills, save money and have some left over to have fun?" (Self sufficiency and financial appreciation)
"Why is my life so amazing, and exceeds all my expectations?" (Gratitude and celebration)
"What are the steps I require to take to manifest the ideas into abundance?" (Focus on action)
"What is my million dollar idea so I can manifest it into my life today?" (Co-creating with the universe on the destined path)
"How can the universe give me than enough health, energy, vitality and stamina than I thought possible?" (instilling health and physical abundance)
"What type of person can I become to manifest and enjoy the abundance the universe wants to give me?" (Blessings are there to be given, it is matched to the image we believe about ourselves. So by changing our self belief, and describing who we are growing into helps to co -create the changes in life we desire and destined to have.)
I encourage you to play with the above questions, and definitely explore her work!!
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"How long must you feel sorry for yourself in order to finally reclaim your happiness? Seriously. How much self-pity is required to love yourself again? When would now be the best time to start acting and feeling better? Now."
What is it we are afraid of? It is success, or failure and according to who's definition of either are you comparing yourself to? Is it about achieving things you thought you were not entitled to, or worth of? With New Years heading firmly into being 2017, what is the goals you set out to achieve in the last days of 2016, leading into 2017. What were you vowing to do differently? For many it is to eat, move, behave, think, relate, spend, travel, relax or learn. Then, reality kicks in. Summer is hot, and it is easier to enjoy the ice cream, soft drink, easy meals of take away and laze around. The kids are still on holidays, and so the atmosphere of kicking resolutions is a challenge.
Often, the underlying reasons for not go for the resolutions is a fear of not achieving the stated goal, being shown up, (in our own minds, if not by others) of not doing it again. The fear of missing out, or needing to learn new habits; sweat it out, or even just to get up that little bit earlier to fit things in. What is the greater fear though, to make changes and give up habits and comforts that are not supporting your growth and dreams, or the fear of showing up again as not following through?
Fear is a learnt response from years of situations challenging the ego's perceptions of what 'should' be and most of the fear we feel in life is simply anxiety arising from our anticipation of two kinds of pain that change might bring....
the pain associated with loss or hardship" Brendon BurchardThankfully there are no 'shoulds', or 'musts' in life, but a sequence of choices that moves you to, away or to stay put in the situation one is in.
The sense or fear of loss is a thought pattern. We become concerned we will lose something we enjoy or value if we make the changes needed to achieve the stated goal. It is a thought pattern that plays out in millions of subtle decisions throughout people's lives.
If you fear :
Do any of these resonate with you? Can you substitute situations or words that are potentially holding you back and keeping you small, trapped or limited in situations or relationships that are not serving you any more? Is it time to be honest with yourself and with those it potentially impacts?
Getting real and honest with yourself takes a lot of self care,self respect and courage. When we ignore our own truths, we are ultimately lying to ourselves, and showing others we will tolerate being treated. If this is ok with you then great, but from experience, there are not many who are totally content with all aspects of their lives and are choosing to settle and allow self neglect to start take over.
How does one move through from ignorance, denial and avoidance to insight, choice and action? It takes times, a willingness to be totally honest and be ok with whatever is likely to come up. To closely analyse your thought patterns around change, and commitment to change, then reverse it. Once we become aware of the reasons why are anticipate loss, it is important to question whether or not it is true.
The more we look for evidence of our fears, the more we realise they are ofen faulty, quick assumptions of atired or undirecterd mind.......Brendon BurchardI am going to hazard a guess if you explore or examine the fear of dieting, quitting a bad habit or leaving a bad relationship you will realise there is always less to lose than to gain in making healthy decisions for. You may feel there are some embarrassing, shameful, unreal, surprising, but also likely to be some understandable and awe inspiring reasons why you are avoiding the responsibility of change. Desire to attain your chosen goal is not enough, but unshackling your attachment to the chains of fear and the limitations of keeping your self comfortable to continuing to do what you are doing.
With out awareness from this type of exploration and willingness to own your beliefs, rationals, fears running your choices, things will not easily change, if at all. You are likely to remain stuck, going around in circles until you take courage to face up and release the hold the irrational fears have over your choices. Awareness is ultimately the first step, action and release work is essential.
Once we recognise the assumptions we hold triggering the anxiety, we can then flip them and explore the opposite. Seeing and then focusing as obsessively as possible on the gains we will have with the resolved changes. What if you begin the new diet and find new foods and recipes we love? What if the pains that are stopping me from walking easily go away? What if I can start to eat my favorite foods again when I have figured out they were not the problem, but some thing else was?What if we quite smoking and learn new methods of even greater relaxation? What if, in a new romantic relationship, we finally find joy?
It is wise to visualise these outcomes as much as we visualise the sense of loss.
If you feel you are stuck or overwhelming emotions are surfacing, then it is is really time to let things go. You may well benefit with release work to access the block that is keeping the fear and limitation in place stronger than your ability to move forward. If this is the case for you, then book your Guided Health Meditation Session, or reach out to therapists you trust, or even consider doing courses as provided in Mindvalley.com. I have used several of their programs and magic really does happen.
Remember, what the mind can conceive it will do what is in its power to deliver. The universe with conspire with you on what you focus, so become super clear of what you are focusing on and why, and you will get there so much faster.
This little one says it all so clearly. As adults, we can certainly learn from the message.
With three days to go before the monumental beginning of 2017, many are either in recovery mode from the year that was, or preparing for the 2017.
Personally, for myself it is about taking time out to clean up loose ends, reflect on the good, the things that were challenges, and congratulate myself on the things that I have improved in. Just like children, if we don't praise ourselves or at least recognise the good we do in any situation, we start to become disenchanted with ourselves and our lives. One serious reason to complete 'A Daily Reflection' activity. Not just about gratitude, but an actual lesson prompting thought process so the next day can be different from the one just lived.
Other benefits of this type of meditation, is that we can ask powerful questions, regularly which speeds up the change process, helps to create a greater sense of control over situations, which in turn help create mental and emotional wellbeing.
A sample of the types of questions to ask each day and what positive reinforcements you can create to perpetuate change.
In your Life’s Journal record the following for the day:
What great thing happened today?
Place this in your achievement board.
What emotions and feelings did you feel with?
What memories arose during these experiences?
What theme, or common emotions, if any were there between the memories?
What is the lesson for today’s ‘interesting’ experience/s?
What dreams or hopes where unleashed during today?
Place these on your dream board.
What future steps or actions are you to take to achieve your goals?
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Celebrate the wins, even the small things of :
Knowing that we all act from stored memories or historic reactions in our sub-conscious, asking or reflecting on the associations between then and know helps to let go of the past 'issues' if they are not serving you. Again, like a child that is finally being heard, the emotions and memories start to give up their frequent attention seeking whine. Completing more powerful healing work on really powerful and hurtful memories is beneficial and if you need help to get through the big stuff, ask.
The part of the process when you have seen the good you have done and created and acknowledging the previous associations, one can choose to keep the lessons, and let go of the reactions. Asking the following questions can really make a massive forward projection change in state, but also start the conspiracy with the universe as to what can be created from here on.
Asking the following question at the end of each day, the beginning of each day, when we have planning or change discussions with colleagues, friends or family; change in planned activities, almost in every situation, a background dialogue can speed up the clarity required to make powerful and respecting decisions and therefore action.
The theme of the questions may change depending on the type of discussion or decisions required. For instance, if you are planning the next day around family activities, part of the goal could be "To enhance connection with the children/partner and make memories" The theme with a work project likely quite different "The end goal is to really bring this together so I can get the bonus or the recognition I need.
The questions following "What is the gaol?" helps create steps of creation towards achieving the ultimate goal, whatever it is.
At the end of the day, every single second of time can alter the projection of your life. You are ultimately in charge of everything that happens in you, to you and around you. You are in charge of the thoughts you allow to float up and stay vs floating and leaving. It is a choice to choose not to be aware or conscious about what is going on in and around you.
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Remember, it takes courage to become aware, to make different choices and ask for help.
So, dig out your courage you had when you were a toddler and you were fearlessly determined to walk, run and play
Awareness, while it is the first step to change, can unleash a genie similar to the Movie Aladin. Remember Aladdin was the kid on the block who was just getting by, dreaming bigger ideas and more so about getting to know Princess Jasmine.
Our life can be just like Aladdin. We are making do, doing our thing, living the life we are 'meant' to live. As in last posts, I ask: "Who said you had to live this way?" Was it your parents, family, the social class you were born into? How about the teachers, the bullies, your friends who tease or limit you from being who you would like to choose to be, just like Aladin dreaming of the girl who is 'out of his league', the ease of life not on the street, or better to at least have a house over his head. Now that Aladin has started to wake up, you may not have peace until you let the Genie work its magic with you.
I was reading an amazing book yesterday - Life's Golden Ticket by Brendon Burchard . A real must read. A story of second chances and reflection of how our past beliefs, rules and limitations create our current reality. Through the main character, it takes us into our own pasts and asks the reader consider the defining moments that have shaped your current choices. Then, with this awareness, shows how damaging they have been. Interested, check it out here. I dare you to start taking your life seriously and seeing what you are creating, why and how, so that you can consciously start choosing what you actually want to your life to be. Think of this as one of Genie's wishes.
Another prompt came to me yesterday, (see I am going through this process myself at the moment - taking my life by the horns to create something I choose). Keith Abraham whom I have been following for a little while talks about big, bold goals of life. He has a program where he takes you through the process of making a 100 list of things to do in the year. For some, me included it was like "No way!" Though I will also say, the things I did put down have happened. The power of thinking big, and taking the courage to get out there, to stretch, to grow and to make good.
Back to the prompt..... Connecting the dots. His analogy was the activity of joining the dots to create the picture, you remember? If we didn't know what it was meant to look like from the beginning, we didn't always get it right, did we? As so with life, we might be looking at our future like a blank piece of paper (which it is), thinking about New Year resolutions, contemplating what happened during 2016, the good, the wins, lessons and the fine tuning of the year's adventures.
The picture or plan is hard to create unless you have the vision for where you really want to go. If this is where you feel like you are at right now, then follow these 3 steps …
Now we are the cusp of 2017, what will we do with it? I suggest...
The concept of wellness has been around for eons, from ancient civilizations through the foundational philosophy and codes of contemporary counselling, allied mental health and medical faculties. Our society is starting to wake up to the value of looking after ourselves in a way that we haven’t in a long time. As a culture within the clients I see, the people I associate with, follow and observe there is an even bigger push to get real and change.
As practitioners we are being driven by consumer demand, resulting in embracing a holistic, wellness-oriented approach. This is in contrast with traditional medical/illness models, and many of our theoretical approaches have adopted health-enhancing, prevention-oriented protocols. People in a position of influence including Medical, Allied Health, Coaches, Mentors and employers will with time need to incorporate elements of wellness promotion in their model of engagement as appropriate to the relationship they have with whom they are caring for. Thankfully, many professionals and workplaces are already integrating wellness-based practices environments they influence.
Wellness is a perception of how one feels at any given moment, encapsulating the various facets or segments of life creating a synergistic effect. Medicine, well-meaning allied health professionals and friends’ seem to support popular media’s prescriptive model, which also focuses on the objective, KPI changes. The idea of “I must,” suggests people must do specific things and achieve certain outcome markers to be considered healthy. For example, we ‘must’
Yes, these are important facets of wellbeing, but to focusing on the physical aspects of health, with limited or an avoidance of the social, emotional and the mental aspects of wellbeing, to do everything ‘right’ as prescribed is unreasonable, quite impossible for many individuals, and potentially detrimental to some people’s mental health. In my opinion mental and emotional health, healthy self-perception is as, if not more important. It is after all, our body chemistry that changes our health and so our emotions,
What do these words have in common, besides being the new buzz words? They all have Hope attached to them. Hope I think, because we all would like to have wellness, and a sense of wellbeing as well as happiness. Considering the definition of words we give them actually create our perspective, they also define your choices. When I ask you what these words mean to you and how do you define or describe them, what is the answer? Are they just an illusion that is being portrayed within the happy community, similar to the love movement of the 70’s? Do they have any relevance to you and your place in life? Maybe, they just represent an evolutionary movement of humanity representing something we are actually searching for - peace, contentment and connectedness.
I dare say as an individual in the Western Society, we are collectively searching for meaning in the vastness of turmoil the world appears to be in. I don’t think many would dispute there is an increasing dis-chord between what we innately know to be truth and what we have been lead to believe via popular press, marketing, capitalism and that money is the saving force to our woes. I challenge you to question this. What if, by questioning your current perspective, you can have more happiness, more wellness and a sense of freedom? A different appreciation for your life is available if you are able to make conscious and informed choices of how you choose to live it.
What if you could create a different life, enjoying it more while living in the manner you like simply by encouraging you to own your power to choose? What if, all you needed to do is be grateful, to see the better parts of people, to let go of your expectations to avoid disappointment?
How then, do we define wishes, hopes and desires, when parts of society is encouraging us to dream big, to work smart, to play hard? The answer may just be by responding and not reacting to the environments you are in. Working with the things you can influence and allowing the rest to be as they are. As Stephen Covey explains in his book “7 Habits of Highly Effective People".
Is the reality that you see, that you feel and that surrounds you is negative, predominately irritation or frustration towards being stuck in a work just to pay for the house, car or the children’s education? I want to challenge this thought because it is social illusion; one that was born from the concepts of the have and have nots, with the need to keep up appearances, with the Jones and with everyone else in between.
I think that it is possible to incorporate ambition and contentedness into our psyche. By combining snippets of materialistic ideologies, we can encourage and support the dream big theory. It is possible to take every day actions that supports transition into what we dream to have and be.