This is was purposefully written to make you think and become a more level headed. We are not more dysfunctional as we think we are, and to help create more self compassion, and more for others too. We are all working towards living and creating more of we want - love and sharing of this!!
Let's put this into perspective.
New experiences that ask of us to learn new skills, and let go of the heavy baggage so we can travel easier, lighter, or more so when we are treading water, that we don't drown under the weight of the past.
It is possible. It starts with a thought, the enquiry, the learning, the healing, letting go and transforming one's self into the character we choose to become. Hopefully, more Love, Grace, Humility, etc.
Let's be honest, we all have dreams, aspirations, wishes etc, if we don't we are living a shell of a life without passion and life.
How to make big things happen, the ideas, dreams, hopes, aspirations that seem just too big to get one's head around. The one's that make your heart race in anticipated excitement or fear because the outcome could be so, so good!
Or maybe the goal for you is
First things - check in the goal or aspiration is actually yours and not to appease another, or to fulfill someone else's expectation otherwise you are going to be working out of alignment with your true self. Misaligned attention is a body and mind stress.
Secondly - describe the outcome in as much detail as possible. Get descriptive, use as many adjectives as possible. Get creative. You might be more comfortable in painting, drawing, doodling making music etc..Anything to help anchor your new reality to your subconscious.
Not sure what the goal could feel like? Watch movies, documentaries etc to help you create a visual/descriptive story to recall at a whim.
Remember, the subconscious really doesn't know the difference between a fantasy or reality, so the more times you can see, feel and anchor the goal, the more the subconscious gets on board to create it.
The side effect to this, while can be painful and challenging at times are huge, massive opportunity blessings. As you change your internal imagery, you also change your vibration and what you send out to the world - things not of similar value, vibration etc will move away. Yes, the opportunity is to heal your attachment to events, people, expectations, limiting beliefs and actions not aligned with your bigger picture.
The best part of this is life does get better, it does become lighter, clearer and more loving as you clear out the heavier beliefs, and emotions from your psyche.
Thirdly - give yourself to gift of clearing out, healing, letting go and transforming your limiting beliefs that have been holding you back all this time.
Most of the beliefs aren't even yours. You took them on at an age (before 7) before you knew enough to consciously assess the situation and make a choice. Your parents, siblings, school, culture, society etc you were exposed to gave you these and through osmosis learning, you took them on. Is it time to review these and heal the ones that really are not serving your goal?
Your self belief and self perception was also generally formed within the first 3 years of life, so again, your feeling less then, unworthy, unloved, not fitting in, not smart enough etc, stem from a time that hurt your feelings, but didn't make sense and you internalised it.
Believe me, we all have done this, we all have hang ups, some learnt bigger, harder, more isolating ideas than others.
Fourth - Learn skills, tricks of the trade, in the moment support techniques to keep the vibe high, the goal front of mind, re-affirming your conviction etc. When we do this often, many times a day, then the goal becomes easier and closer!
So, back to the original question... What is one kick butt goal you would like to achieve and what does it look, feel and be like?
If you are not sure, and are ready to take stock of your current life and learn the why, the how, heal, and grow, then the ReclaimME! Spring Clean Program is the one to start with. Combine With the ReclaimME! Transformation package, and you are one your way to a new life.
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